Author: Margaretha Montagu

Dr Margaretha Montagu – described as a “game changer”, “gifted healer”, “guiding light” and “life-enriching author” – is a certified transformational retreat leader who guides her clients towards their most meaningful and fulfilling lives, particularly when navigating life transitions – virtually, or with the assistance of her Friesian Horses, at their home in the southwest of France.
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Moving to the South of France

From Crunching Numbers to Munching Croissants: How I Swapped Spreadsheets for Spectacular French Sunsets

Written by Denise G. who moved to France in the middle of a Midlife Crisis after attending a From Troubled to Triumphant: Find Solid Ground during a Life Quake retreat in the sun-blessed southwest of France

#LifeQuake Series

Let me start by saying: I never planned to move to France. Heck, I didn’t even plan to leave my job. I was one of those “stick to the schedule, keep your head down, and don’t rock the boat” types. You know, the kind of person who doesn’t even cross the street until the little green man shows up on the pedestrian light. But somewhere between yet another soul-sucking audit and the realisation that I’d just spent an entire decade colour-coding spreadsheets, something inside me snapped.

Or maybe it was just the third coffee that day. Who knows?

The Day I Said “Au Revoir” to My 9-to-5

I was sitting in my office—if you can call a cubicle with beige walls and a suspicious stain on the carpet an “office”—staring at a client’s expense reports. “$4,000 for ‘team-building snacks’? Seriously?” I muttered under my breath. (For the record, it was mostly tequila. That’s a red flag if I’ve ever seen one.)

It wasn’t just the absurdity of the job, though. It was the monotony. The same numbers. The same complaints about the coffee machine. The same coworkers with their passive-aggressive Post-It notes in the communal fridge.

So, on a random Tuesday—because big life decisions should always happen on a random Tuesday—I opened my browser, Googled “remote jobs,” and started clicking around. That’s how I stumbled into the rabbit hole of freelance work.

Wait, People Get Paid to Do This?

I wish I could tell you I had a grand plan, but honestly, I was winging it. I created a profile on one of those freelancing platforms (you know, the kind where everyone says “I’ll do X for $5” but secretly charges $50). I figured, “Hey, I know accounting. People need accounting, right?”

The thing is, freelance accounting isn’t just about crunching numbers. Suddenly, I was answering emails at 9 PM because some panicked small business owner couldn’t find their receipts. I became a part-time therapist for people who “just don’t understand taxes.” And let’s not even talk about the guy who tried to pay me in cryptocurrency. (Spoiler: I said no.)

But it worked. Slowly but surely, I started to build a client base. And as much as I’d love to tell you I was instantly making six figures while lounging in my pyjamas, the truth is I spent the first three months eating instant ramen and Googling, “How to price freelance services without sounding desperate.”

The France Idea (AKA My Midlife Crisis, But Make It Fancy)

Now, here’s where things get interesting. One night, I was scrolling Instagram (because obviously, that’s what you do when you suspect you’re burnt out). I saw a post from someone I barely knew—a “digital nomad,” apparently—living their best life in a little French village.

The picture? A cobblestone street lined with flower boxes, a sunset in the background, and a caption that read, “Work from anywhere.” I rolled my eyes so hard I nearly fell off the couch. But then I started thinking… could I actually do that?

I mean, I hated my job, sure. But what I hated even more was that my life felt small. I was in my 40s, living the same day over and over, like some accounting version of Groundhog Day. Wasn’t this the time to do something crazy?

The crazy thing I did, a week before, in a desperate attempt to cope with my debilitating midlife crisis, was to attend a From Troubled to Triumphant: Find Solid Ground during a Life Quake retreat in the southwest of France. It changed EVERYTHING.

I fell madly in love with France during the retreat, so I grabbed a piece of paper, wrote “Why Not Move to France?” at the top, and started a list. Pros: cheese, wine, croissants. Cons: my non-existent French, and… moving to another country leaving everything and everyone I know behind, a rather daunting list.

A week later, I applied for a visa.

Learning to Say “Bonjour” Without Sounding Like a French Toddler

Fast forward three months, and there I was: standing in a tiny apartment in Bordeaux, surrounded by several suitcases, a bottle opener and a bottle of cheap red wine in my hands.

Now, let me tell you, moving to France sounds glamorous until you’re the one trying to explain your Wi-Fi issues to a technician who speaks zero English. (My version of French was basically just pointing at things and adding “s’il vous plaît.”)

The first few weeks were chaos. I got lost constantly. Once, I ended up in a boulangerie trying to order a baguette and accidentally asked for “a very large grandmother.” The cashier laughed so hard she gave me the bread for free. (Bless her.)

But slowly, life started to feel… lighter. I’d wake up, make my coffee, and open my laptop in the corner of a little café. I worked, yes, but I also took long lunches, strolled through markets, and sat by the river with a book. I learned to appreciate slowness in a way I never had back in the grind of corporate life.

The Big Lesson (or, Why One Should Do the Scary Thing)

Was it terrifying to leave my stable job and start over in a foreign country? Absolutely. Did I have moments where I questioned everything, cried into a glass of Bordeaux, and called my best friend screaming, “What have I done?” Also yes.

But here’s the thing: life’s too short to stay stuck. Whether it’s a job, a city, or even just a mindset—if something isn’t making you happy, it’s okay to change it.

I won’t pretend everything’s perfect. French bureaucracy is a nightmare, and don’t even get me started on how long it takes to set up a bank account here. But when I think about where I was a year ago, stuck in that cubicle with the beige walls, I wouldn’t trade this life for anything.

So, if you’re reading this, wondering if you should take that leap—whether it’s switching careers, moving abroad, or even just saying “no” to something that’s not serving you—this is your sign.

Trust me, the almond croissants alone are worth it.

Here’s to messy, beautiful, unpredictable life changes. Or as the French say, “A la Votre!”

Hit the pause button and regain your footing during a From Troubled to Triumphant: Find Solid Ground during Life Quakes Retreat. Imagine walking a peaceful stretch of the Camino de Santiago, where every step helps untangle the mental clutter, or spending time with gentle Friesian horses who teach you the art of mindfulness. These retreats blend reflection and relaxation in a way that feels more like an exciting adventure than hard work. Whether you’ve chosen to make a change, or are forced to, this retreat offers the perfect blend of peace, perspective, and playful exploration to help you rise from troubled to triumphant!

I put the essence of who I am, and everything I have experienced that makes me who I am, with great enthusiasm, into my retreats, courses and books. – Dr Margaretha Montagu (MBChB, MRCGP, NLP master pract (cert,) Transformational Life Coach (dip,) Life Story Coach (cert) Counselling (cert,) Med Hypnotherapy (dip) and EAGALA (cert)

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Camino de Santiago Hiking Adventures

Confessions from the Camino: Blisters, Bliss, and Big Life Epiphanies

Written by Nina S. a proud Empty-Nester who attended a From Troubled to Triumphant: Find Solid Ground during a Life Quake retreat in the sun-blessed southwest of France

#LifeQuake Series

I knew I was in trouble when my left ankle, safely encased in a brand new hiking boot started whispering “I hate you!” by mile three. Okay, it wasn’t literally whispering, but it might as well have been, considering the blister situation brewing on my heel. Welcome to my first day walking the Camino de Santiago—where dreams of spiritual enlightenment collide head-on with the harsh reality of unbroken shoes.

But I’m getting ahead of myself. Let me rewind.

Why the Heck I Decided to Do This

So, picture this: me, a woman in her 50s, sitting in my kitchen with a cup of tea, staring down the uneven barrel of a life transition. Kids? Grown and out of the house (well, mostly—one boomerangs back when she needs help with her laundry). Career? Let’s just say I wasn’t feeling the love. Relationship? Yeah… let’s not open that Pandora’s box just yet.

I wanted inspiration, clarity, purpose, some kind of sign that the next chapter wasn’t going to involve me knitting in a recliner while binge-watching Murder, She Wrote reruns. (No offence, Jessica Fletcher, but I need more action in my life.)

That’s when I stumbled upon an article about a retreat walking a section of the Camino de Santiago, a centuries-old pilgrimage that winds through the southwest of France on it’s way to Spain. The photos looked like postcards: sunflower fields, charming stone villages, and people beaming with the kind of joy that comes from surviving walking 500 miles with a backpack that’s either too heavy or too small.

I thought, If they can do it, so can I. Plus, walking sounded simple. You just put one foot in front of the other, right? Spoiler alert: it’s not that simple.

Day One: The Blister Chronicles

Fast forward to me, sweating my way up a gentle incline (read: Mount Everest in disguise) on my first day. The romantic visions I had of strolling through quaint villages? Replaced by the grim reality of cursing every pebble on the path.

By lunchtime, I had my first blister. By dinnertime, I had named it Fred and was seriously considering amputating my foot. Fred was mean, persistent, and not shy about demanding attention with every step. But here’s the thing about the Camino: when you’re surrounded by fellow pilgrims, everyone’s in the same boat—or rather, on the same path.

At one point, I stopped to patch Fred up, and a fellow walker—an energetic Italian woman named Sofia—offered me her blister cream. “The Camino gives you what you need,” she said with a wink, handing me the tiny tube.

I wasn’t sure if it was divine intervention or just good timing, but the gesture made me tear up a little.

The People You Meet (and the Snacks You Steal)

Walking for hours a day gives you plenty of time to think—or to eavesdrop on conversations, which is what I did whenever I caught up to other pilgrims. (What? Don’t judge me; the Camino can get lonely!) I overheard deep discussions about philosophy, hilarious debates about which albergue had the best wine, and one particularly spirited argument about whether or not snoring should be a criminal offence in shared dorms.

Then there were the snacks. Let me just say, I became a bit of a Camino snack ninja. If someone brought out a bag of trail mix, I’d conveniently slow down to “enjoy the view” until I was close enough to sneak a handful. Hey, walking burns a lot of calories!

But the real magic came from the moments of connection. Like when I bonded with a retired teacher from Canada over our shared love of cheesy rom-coms. Or when a young guy from Germany told me he was walking to figure out what to do after quitting his tech job. His honesty floored me, and it made me wonder if maybe I needed to ask myself some hard questions too.

Lessons from the Trail (and the Time I Almost Quit)

The third day nearly broke me. My legs felt like lead, the rain wouldn’t stop, and Fred (remember the blister?) had blossomed into a blister barnacle. I wanted to quit. I even googled “nearest taxi service” during a water break.

But then I looked up and saw a signpost with the word Spain and an arrow pointing the way. It hit me: this wasn’t about getting there as fast as possible. It wasn’t about proving anything to anyone. It was about the journey itself. (Yes, I know that sounds like a line from a self-help book, but stay with me.)

I put my phone away and kept walking.

That day, I crossed paths with a French woman in her 60s who’d been walking the Camino for two months. TWO MONTHS. She told me she started because she wanted to “find her joy again.” And you know what? She was the happiest person I’d met on the trail.

Her story reminded me that it’s okay to feel lost. It’s okay to not have everything figured out. Sometimes, you just have to keep putting one foot in front of the other, even if your feet are covered in Band-Aids.

The Finish Line (and What Came After)

When I finally reached the end, I expected fireworks, a choir of angels, or at least someone handing out free beers. Instead, I got a quiet sense of peace that crept over me as I stood in the shadow of an ancient oak tree.

It didn’t magically solve all my problems. My job was still waiting for me, my relationships still needed work, and my life still had plenty of question marks. But I felt lighter, more open, and—dare I say it—a little braver.

The Camino didn’t fix me. It didn’t hand me a roadmap for the rest of my life. But it reminded me that I’m capable of more than I think. And sometimes, this time, that’s enough.

So, if you’re sitting in your kitchen with a cup of tea, wondering who you are now and what’s next, maybe the answers aren’t clear right now. But trust me, at least some of the answers are out there on the Camino—waiting for you to take the first step.

Don’t forget the blister cream. And more snacks than you think you’ll ever need.

Find out more.

Hit the pause button and regain your footing during a From Troubled to Triumphant: Find Solid Ground during Life Quakes Retreat. Imagine walking a peaceful stretch of the Camino de Santiago, where every step helps untangle the mental clutter, or spending time with gentle Friesian horses who teach you the art of mindfulness. These retreats blend reflection and relaxation in a way that feels more like an exciting adventure than hard work. Whether you’ve chosen to make a change, or are forced to, this retreat offers the perfect blend of peace, perspective, and playful exploration to help you rise from troubled to triumphant!

Imagine having a survival toolkit ready next time you’re hit by a life-shattering transition. My How to Survive a Life Quake 7-part online course isn’t just another hybrid course – with or without coaching – it’s a heartfelt made-with-love guide packed with tools to help you survive and even thrive through life’s toughest transitions, with resilience.

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How Limiting Beliefs about Money can make Life Transitions 20X worse

Are Your Ingrained Money Myths Secretly Sabotaging Your Progress?

During life’s big transitions, we would all like to think we’re making cool, calculated financial decisions. But here’s bad news: your limiting beliefs about money—the ones we picked up from childhood, school, society, or your cousin Sandy’s doomsday predictions—are quietly sabotaging you.

I have discovered (the hard way) that limiting beliefs about money can significantly impact my financial decisions during life transitions, often hindering my progress and creating lots of unnecessary stress.

Ever heard that “money doesn’t grow on trees”? I know, it doesn’t. But that little phrase could be the reason you’re stuck agonising over every dollar during a major life change, instead of planting new seeds for future growth.

In this article, we’ll look at how your self-imposed scary money stories (spoiler: most of them aren’t even true) can complicate your financial decisions during transitional periods. By the end, you’ll be ready to say goodbye to your cash-related baggage—and maybe even order that fancy latte guilt-free.

First, let’s determine what financially limiting beliefs are:

Limiting financial beliefs are deeply ingrained assumptions or perceptions we hold about money, that constrain our potential and restrict our choices. These beliefs often form during childhood through experiences, cultural conditioning, or significant life events. They become the invisible barriers that shape our financial decisions, behaviours, and ultimately, our life outcomes.

During life transitions, whether it’s changing careers, starting a new business, or moving to a new city, financially limiting beliefs tend to surface with heightened intensity. They activate our fear response, triggering anxiety, insecurity and self-doubt. These limiting beliefs can paralyse us just when we need to take decisive action. These thoughts create a self-fulfilling prophecy where we either avoid opportunities or sabotage our financial progress.

Now let me show you how dangerous financial limiting beliefs can be:

Sandra sat at her desk, fingers hovering over the keyboard. The email she needed to send would confirm her acceptance of an extremely high-paying consulting job—a dream opportunity that is 100% aligned with her training and skills. But she hesitated.

Nothing you can do is worth this much money, Sandra, a little voice whispered.

Sandra grew up in a household where money was tight, her parents often said things like, “We’ll never be able to afford that,” or “The love of money is the root of all evil. It corrupts decent people.” She internalised these beliefs, carrying them into adulthood like an invisible shackle.

Her career was successful by most standards—steady jobs, good reviews, regular promotions—but she always stopped short of pursuing anything that promised substantial financial growth. The fear of earning too much, of being judged for wanting more, held her hostage.

That fear had cost her dearly last year when she turned down a project that would have doubled her income. Instead, she watched a less-qualified colleague soar to success. The bitterness gnawed at her, but she convinced herself it was “better to stay humble.”

Until today.

The consulting job offer stared back at her, the large numbers bold and bright on the screen. Sandra suddenly remembered the conversation she’d had with her friend Beth last week.

“You’re sabotaging yourself, Sandra,” Beth had said bluntly. “You’ve got these debilitating ideas about money that are paralysing you.”

Sandra had scoffed then, but Beth’s words lingered. They echoed louder now, drowning out the old whispers.

What if I’m wrong? she thought. What if earning more doesn’t mean selling out?

Her heart pounded as she moved the mouse to click ‘reply.’

“I am pleased to accept your offer…”

Sandra smiled. She finished the email and quickly hit ‘send’ before her limiting beliefs could resurface.

How limiting beliefs can affect decision-making during transitional periods:

1. Your Limiting Beliefs can cause Risk Aversion and result in Missed Opportunities

In professional contexts, limiting beliefs can significantly impede career advancement and job transitions, resulting in missed opportunities. You might possess the necessary skills and qualifications but hold a belief like “I’m not leadership material.” Such a belief often prevents you from applying for promotions, negotiating better salaries, or pursuing entrepreneurial ventures. A conviction that “I’m too old to change careers” may prevent you from pursuing a more fulfilling and potentially lucrative job opportunity and a “It’s too risky to leave my current job, even if I’m unhappy” belief can keep you stuck in an unfulfilling career.

These beliefs can cause you to pass up on valuable opportunities for financial growth and career advancement during transitions.

2. Due to Your Limiting Beliefs, You may Undervalue Your Skills and Potential

Limiting beliefs often lead to underestimating your worth:

  • “I don’t have the right skills or experience for a new field” can prevent you from negotiating fair compensation in a new career.
  • “I’m not smart enough to go back to school” might stop you from pursuing further education that could lead to better financial prospects.

Such beliefs can result in settling for less than what you are worth, impacting your long-term financial well-being.

3. Limiting Beliefs may cause a Scarcity Mindset

A scarcity mindset, characterised by beliefs like “There’s never enough money,” can significantly impact financial choices during transitions:

  • It may lead to hoarding money out of fear, rather than making strategic investments or taking calculated risks.
  • This mindset can cause you to pass up opportunities for personal or professional growth due to concerns about future resource availability.

4. You may avoid Financial Planning because of Your Limiting Beliefs

Beliefs such as “Money management is too complex” can lead to avoidance of crucial financial planning during transitions that result in missed opportunities to improve financial health through budgeting, investing, or saving. It may lead to poor financial decisions due to a lack of engagement with your finances during critical transition periods.

5. Your Limiting Beliefs May Impact Your Long-Term Financial Health

Limiting beliefs can have lasting effects on your financial well-being. The belief that “Future financial security isn’t as important as enjoying the present” can lead to prioritising immediate gratification over long-term financial planning. This short-term focus can be particularly detrimental during transitions, where strategic financial decisions are often crucial.

How to Overcome Financial Limiting Beliefs

Overcoming financially limiting beliefs during life transitions requires a combination of a mindset shift, practical strategies, and consistent action. Financial beliefs often stem from past experiences, cultural conditioning, or fear of scarcity. Here’s a detailed guide to help you address your elf-imposed limitations and replace these beliefs with empowering ones:

1. Identify Your Financial Limiting Beliefs

  • Reflection: Write down the financial thoughts that come to mind during stressful moments. Common beliefs include:
    • “Money is hard to earn.”
    • “I’ll never have enough to feel secure.”
    • “I’m bad at managing money.”
  • Example: During a job transition, you might think, “I can’t afford to take risks.”
  • Action Step: Journal about where this belief originated. Was it influenced by childhood experiences or a specific event? Awareness is the first step to breaking its hold.

2. Challenge and Reframe These Beliefs

  • Question the Validity by asking Yourself:
    • “Is this belief universally true?”
    • “What evidence contradicts this belief?”
  • Reframe Your Beliefs with Empowering Statements: Replace “Money is hard to come by” with “I have skills and opportunities to create value and generate income.”

3. Educate Yourself about Finances

  • Why It Helps: Knowledge reduces fear and builds confidence. Financial transitions feel overwhelming when you’re unsure how to navigate them.
  • Action Steps:
    • Take a basic course on budgeting, investing, or personal finance.
    • Read books like Your Money or Your Life by Vicki Robin or The Barefoot Investor by Scott Pape.

4. Set Clear Financial Goals

  • Why It Helps: Clear goals shift your focus from scarcity to possibility.
  • Action Steps: Break larger goals into manageable steps. For example:
    • Goal: Save €5,000 during a career transition.
    • Steps: Review expenses, cut non-essentials, and create a weekly savings target.
    • Automate savings to make it easier to stick to your plan.

5. Adopt a Growth Mindset About Money

  • Why It Helps: Viewing financial challenges as opportunities to grow increases resilience.
  • Action Steps:
    • Instead of thinking, “I’ll never make enough,” adopt, “How can I increase my income or reduce unnecessary expenses?”
    • Practice gratitude for what you already have to shift from a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset.

6. Surround Yourself with Supportive Resources

  • Why It Helps: People and tools that reinforce a positive money mindset can counteract limiting beliefs.
  • Action Steps:
    • Join financial accountability groups or communities.
    • Work with a financial coach or mentor who aligns with your goals.

7. Take Small, Consistent Action Steps

To overcome these limiting beliefs and make better financial decisions during transitions, experiment with side hustles or freelance work to increase your income. Or if you firmly believe you can’t save, start with €10 a week. Over time, you’ll see progress and build trust in your abilities.

8. Visualise Your Financial Triumph

  • Why It Helps: Visualisation primes your mind to seek opportunities that align with your goals.
  • Action Steps:
    • Create a vision board of your financial goals: debt-free living, travel, or a comfortable retirement.
    • Spend 5 minutes daily imagining yourself enjoying financial freedom.

9. Learn from Setbacks

  • Why It Helps: Financial transitions often come with mistakes, but each setback is a learning opportunity.
  • Action Steps: After an unplanned expense or financial misstep, reflect on what caused it and how you can prevent it in the future.

10. Participate in a Transformational Experience like the From Troubled to Triumphant retreat

Imagine stepping away from the constant noise of life into a sanctuary of peace. On the Camino de Santiago, each step is a journey back to your authentic self—a rare chance to break free from the stories holding you back, including those about money.

This Camino de Santiago hiking adventure is more than a walk; it can completely shift your mindset from scarcity to abundance. for example, a limiting belief like “I’ll never make enough to live comfortably” can be replaced by “With creativity and perseverance, I can find multiple ways to increase my financial stability.”

In these serenely tranquil surroundings, you’ll gain the clarity you need to step into a future where financial freedom feels not just possible, but inevitable.

The From Troubled to Triumphant: Find Solid Ground during a Life Transition retreat isn’t just a break from the ordinary—it’s your gateway to an extraordinary life.

Are you ready to take the first step towards financial abundance?

How to Break Limiting Beliefs

Overcoming limiting beliefs requires conscious awareness and deliberate action. The first step is identifying these beliefs by paying attention to our internal dialogue during challenging transitions. Once identified, we can challenge these beliefs by seeking evidence that contradicts them and creating new, empowering narratives.

Support systems play a crucial role in challenging and overcoming limiting beliefs during transitions. Mentors, therapists, coaches, and supportive friends can provide objective perspectives that help us question our assumptions and see new possibilities. They can also offer encouragement and accountability as we work to replace limiting beliefs with more constructive mindsets.

The cumulative effect of limiting beliefs on life transitions can significantly alter our life trajectory. Each time we allow these beliefs to prevent us from taking action or pursuing opportunities, we reinforce patterns of self-limitation. Conversely, when we challenge and overcome these beliefs, we create new patterns of growth and possibility, leading to more fulfilling life experiences and achievements.

Hit the pause button and regain your footing during a From Troubled to Triumphant: Find Solid Ground during Life Quakes Retreat. Imagine walking a peaceful stretch of the Camino de Santiago, where every step helps untangle the mental clutter, or spending time with gentle Friesian horses who teach you the art of mindfulness. These retreats blend reflection and relaxation in a way that feels more like an exciting adventure than hard work. Whether you’ve chosen to make a change, or are forced to, this retreat offers the perfect blend of peace, perspective, and playful exploration to help you rise from troubled to triumphant!

Author Bio: Dr Margaretha Montagu – described as a “game changer”, “gifted healer”, “guiding light” and “life-enriching author” – is an experienced medical doctor, a certified NLP practitioner, a medical hypnotherapist, an equine-assisted psychotherapist (EAGALAcertified) and a transformational retreat leader who guides her clients through life transitions – virtually, or with the assistance of her Friesian and Falabella horses, at their home in the southwest of France.

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Books that Bridge the Gap: 12 Must-Read Books to Help You Thrive During Life Transitions

Explore stories and strategies that inspire resilience in the face of uncertainty.

Life transitions—moving to a new city, starting a new job, or surviving a break-up that feels straight out of a Netflix drama are like plot twists – they can be messy, unpredictable, and leave you wondering, who wrote this script?!

Major life changes can leave us feeling lost, insecure, or overwhelmed. These pivotal moments often challenge our sense of identity, purpose, and stability. When I was designing my From Troubled to Triumphant transformational retreats, I felt the need to update my knowledge about current coping strategies, so I made a list of the most widely acclaimed authors and books on the subject (see below) and started reading.

Books have a unique ability to meet us where we are. They provide practical strategies to tackle challenges, inspiring stories to help us feel less alone, and transformative insights that shift our perspective. A good book can serve as a mentor, reminding us that others have walked similar paths and found their way through. It can nudge us toward action when we feel stuck or offer solace during moments of despair.

Some of my best friends are Books.

I learned a lot by reading these books, so I decided to create a carefully curated “Recommended Reading List” for my retreat, to help my guests discover the power of books in helping us cope with change and find our footing again.

Recommended Reading List for participants in my From Troubled to Triumphant Retreats

1. “Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes” by William Bridges

Ever wonder why some changes feel like being lost in a maze while others flow naturally? Bridges reveals the hidden structure within every life transition, from career shifts to personal transformations. Through compelling stories and practical insights, he shows how understanding the three phases of transition can transform chaos into a catalyst for growth. This isn’t just another self-help book—it’s a map for navigating life’s most challenging passages.

Key Takeaways:

  • Every transition begins with an ending; embrace the ending before moving forward
  • The “neutral zone” is a crucial time for personal growth and reinvention
  • Resistance to transition is natural and understanding its patterns helps navigation

2. “When Things Fall Apart” by Pema Chödrön

Discover how to find peace amid chaos by reading this book. In a world obsessed with fixing and controlling, Chödrön offers a radical alternative: embracing the chaos. With wisdom that feels like a warm conversation with a trusted friend, she shows how life’s most painful moments can become our greatest teachers. This book is for anyone who’s ever felt overwhelmed by change or wondered if they’re doing it all wrong. Chödrön reveals how life’s toughest moments can become gateways to personal growth, inviting readers to approach pain with openness and courage.

Key Takeaways:

  • Uncertainty and discomfort are natural parts of growth
  • The path through difficulty is to lean into it rather than resist
  • Pain can be a teacher if we approach it with curiosity instead of fear

3. “The Artist’s Way” by Julia Cameron

Stuck in a rut? Cameron’s twelve-week journey isn’t just for artists—it’s for anyone seeking to rediscover their spark and creativity. Through simple yet profound practices, she guides readers to unlock their creative potential and navigate life’s transitions with imagination and courage. This book has transformed millions of lives by showing how creativity can be a compass through times of change. So unleash your inner artist, recover your creativity and navigate change through artistic self-expression.

Key Takeaways:

  • Creative expression is a powerful tool for processing transition
  • Daily writing practice (Morning Pages) helps clear mental clutter
  • Solo time (Artist Dates) is essential for self-discovery and renewal

4. “Option B” by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant

What happens when Plan A falls apart? Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg and psychologist Adam Grant weave personal experience with groundbreaking research to show how resilience isn’t something we’re born with—it’s something we build. This heartfelt and practical guide shows how to find joy again when life takes an unexpected turn. A powerful exploration of building resilience in the face of adversity, based on Sandberg’s experience with unexpected loss.

Key Takeaways:

  • Resilience is not a fixed trait but a muscle that can be built
  • Finding meaning in difficulty can aid healing
  • Support systems are crucial during major life transitions

5. “Designing Your Life” by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans

Forget traditional career advice—this revolutionary book applies Silicon Valley innovation principles to life’s biggest questions. Through engaging exercises and real-world examples, the authors show how to prototype different futures and design a life that works for you. It’s like having two Stanford professors as your personal life coaches. This book offers practical tools to help you shape a life that truly inspires, even if you don’t have all the answers yet. A practical guide to thriving during life transitions and career changes.

Key Takeaways:

  • Multiple solutions exist for life design challenges
  • Prototyping and testing different life scenarios reduces risk
  • Reframing problems leads to better solutions

6. “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle

In this life-changing book, Tolle cuts through the noise of modern life to reveal a profound truth: the present moment is all we ever have. Through crystal-clear prose and powerful exercises, he shows how to break free from compulsive thinking and find peace amidst chaos. This isn’t just philosophy—it’s a practical path to inner freedom. With profound yet accessible insights, this book teaches how to let go of the past, release future anxieties, and find lasting happiness in each moment.

Key Takeaways:

  • Present-moment awareness reduces anxiety about change
  • Emotional pain often comes from resistance to what is
  • Identity is separate from circumstance or situation

7. “Who Moved My Cheese?” by Spencer Johnson

Through a simple parable about mice in a maze, Johnson delivers profound insights about adapting to change that will stay with you forever. This quick read packs more practical wisdom about handling life’s transitions than books triple its size. It’s become a classic because it transforms complex truths about change into unforgettable lessons.

Key Takeaways:

  • Change is inevitable and anticipating it reduces stress
  • The quicker you adapt to change, the better your outcomes
  • Old patterns and beliefs can hold you back from new opportunities

8. “Atomic Habits” by James Clear

Clear demolishes the myth that massive success requires massive action. Through fascinating stories and cutting-edge science, he reveals how tiny changes can grow into life-altering outcomes. This book is your practical guide to transforming your life, one small habit at a time. Perfect for anyone ready to make lasting changes without overwhelming themselves. James Clear reveals how small, consistent habits can create life-altering results. With actionable insights, this book shows you how to improve by just 1% each day to become the person you aspire to be. A practical guide to building new habits and breaking old ones during life transitions.

Key Takeaways:

  • Small changes compound into remarkable results
  • Environment design is more effective than willpower
  • Identity-based habits create lasting change

9. “The Untethered Soul” by Michael Singer

Ever feel like you’re your own worst enemy? Singer shows how to stop the internal dialogue that keeps us stuck and start living from a place of genuine freedom. With the clarity of a physicist and the compassion of a trusted mentor, he guides readers to release the patterns that no longer serve them. This book doesn’t just describe freedom—it shows you the door. It’s a spiritual approach to releasing patterns that no longer serve you during transitions.

Key Takeaways:

  • Inner resistance causes suffering
  • Letting go is a practice of awareness
  • True freedom comes from releasing attachment to outcomes

10. “Daring Greatly” by Brené Brown

Through years of groundbreaking research, Brown discovered that what we often consider our greatest weaknesses can become our greatest strengths. With warmth and humour, she shows how embracing vulnerability can transform the way we live, love, parent, and lead. This book is a game-changer for anyone tired of armouring up against life’s uncertainties.

Key Takeaways:

  • Vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness
  • Shame resilience is crucial for personal growth
  • Authentic connection requires emotional risk-taking

11. “Man’s Search for Meaning” by Viktor Frankl

Written by a Holocaust survivor, this moving memoir explores how meaning can be found even in the darkest times. Part holocaust memoir, part breakthrough psychological theory, Frankl’s masterpiece emerges from the darkest chapter of human history to illuminate the human spirit’s capacity for resilience. Through his experience in Nazi concentration camps, Frankl discovered that the primary drive in life is not pleasure, but the pursuit of what we find meaningful. This book will forever change how you view suffering and purpose. Frankl’s insights on purpose and resilience offer hope, inspiring readers to overcome adversity by focusing on what truly matters. This book unveils a powerful psychological framework for finding purpose during life’s most challenging transitions.

Key Takeaways:

  • Meaning can be found even in the most difficult circumstances.
  • Personal responsibility plays a critical role in shaping your life’s direction.
  • Cultivate resilience by focusing on what you can control: your attitude and response.

12. “Mindset: The New Psychology of Success” by Carol S. Dweck

Through decades of research, Dweck discovered that our success in life isn’t determined by our talents, but by how we think about our abilities. This revolutionary book shows how a simple belief about yourself—what she calls “mindset”—guides a large part of your life and how you can change it. Perfect for anyone facing challenges or seeking to unlock their full potential. The book explains that developing a growth mindset can be particularly helpful for reframing challenges during life transitions.

Key Takeaways:

  • Your beliefs about ability and change affect your outcomes
  • Challenges are opportunities for growth
  • Effort and persistence matter more than natural talent

Also worth a Mention

  1. Life Is in the Transitions: Mastering Change at Any Age by Bruce Feiler – Drawing from hundreds of life stories, Feiler offers strategies and insights for navigating major life changes with meaning and purpose.
  2. .The Next Right Thing by Emily P. Freeman – Freeman provides simple, soulful advice for making decisions and finding clarity when feeling lost in transition.
  3. The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin – Rubin’s year-long experiment in increasing happiness offers practical tips for improving well-being during times of change.
  4. Rising Strong by Brené Brown – In this powerful book on courage and vulnerability, Brené Brown guides you through the art of “rising strong” after life’s inevitable falls, equipping you with tools to own your story and transform setbacks into stepping stones.
  5. Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert – Elizabeth Gilbert’s empowering book invites you to embrace curiosity, face down fear, and let your creativity flourish. It’s an inspiring reminder that creativity is for everyone, not just for artists, and that following your passion can bring unexpected joy.
  6. Let Your Life Speak by Parker J. Palmer – Parker Palmer’s reflective book encourages readers to listen to their inner calling, aligning their lives with true purpose. Ideal for anyone at a crossroads, it gently guides you toward a life rooted in authenticity and inner peace.
  7. The Happiness of Pursuit by Chris Guillebeau – This book encourages readers to find purpose through personal quests and adventures, which can be especially inspiring during life transitions
  8. Wintering by Katherine May is an exploration of how embracing life’s fallow seasons—periods of rest, retreat, and renewal—can help us navigate challenging times with grace and resilience.

FAQ

I’ve added five frequently asked questions (FAQs) about using books to navigate life transitions, to encourage my guests to explore the various options and find the books that resonate most with their current situation.

FAQ 1: What types of books should I look for when going through a transition?

When selecting books for a transition, consider your specific situation. Look for:

  • Self-help books that focus on emotional resilience and coping strategies (e.g., “Option B” by Sheryl Sandberg).
  • Personal development books that encourage growth and self-discovery (e.g., “Rising Strong” by Brené Brown).
  • Career-focused books if you’re navigating professional changes (e.g., “Designing Your Life” by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans).

FAQ 2: Are there specific authors known for writing about life transitions?

Yes, several authors specialise in this topic. Notable examples include:

  • William Bridges is known for “Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes,” which outlines the emotional phases of change.
  • Bruce Feiler, author of “Life Is in the Transitions,” explores personal stories and strategies for navigating change.
  • Pema Chödrön, whose book “When Things Fall Apart” offers spiritual insights on embracing uncertainty.
  • Elizabeth Lesser’s books, including “Broken Open,” delve into how life’s hardships and transformations can lead to profound spiritual and emotional growth.
  • Cheryl Strayed, in her memoir “Wild” and her advice columns in Tiny Beautiful Things, Strayed offers wisdom on overcoming adversity and embracing new beginnings.

FAQ 3: How do I choose the right Life Transition book for my current situation?

To choose the right book, reflect on the nature of your transition. Consider:

  • The emotional support you need (comfort vs. practical advice).
  • The specific challenges you’re facing (personal vs. career-related).
    Once you identify these factors, look for books that align with your needs and resonate with your experiences.

FAQ 4: How can I apply what I learn from these books to real-life situations?

To effectively apply the insights from these books, consider the following steps:

  1. Take Notes: Jot down key takeaways and ideas that resonate with you as you read.
  2. Implement Small Changes: Start by making gradual adjustments in your daily life based on what you’ve learned.
  3. Combine Reading with Journaling: Use a journal to document your thoughts, track your progress, and reflect on your growth throughout the transition.
  4. Re-read Relevant Chapters as you progress through your transition.

By actively engaging with the material and integrating it into your life, you can turn insights into meaningful change.

FAQ 5: Can reading really make a difference in how I cope with change?

Absolutely! Engaging with literature can foster a sense of connection, provide new coping mechanisms, and inspire hope. Many readers find that books not only validate their feelings but also offer actionable insights that help them navigate their transitions more effectively. Reading can be a powerful tool for personal growth during challenging times.

Moving on to Your Next Chapter

When a life transition feels like an unbearably chaotic rewrite of your life story, books are there to remind us that we’re not alone, that others have faced similar battles and not only survived but emerged stronger on the other side—or at least with a good story to tell.

So, if you’re desperately trying to make sense of the plot, there’s a book waiting to guide you, inspire you, or motivate you when you need it most. Because every great story—yours included—needs a little help along the way.

Pick a book and start reading. Your next chapter is only a chapter in a book away.

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Wintering for Introverts: Finding Strength in Solitude

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Book Recommendation: Wintering: The Power of Rest and Retreat in Difficult Times by Katherine May

Wintering: a time of Rest, Retreat and Renewal

This book is at the top of the recommended reading list for my From Troubled to Triumphant: Finding Solid Ground During Life Quakes Retreats. I highly recommend it to anyone going through a life transition, especially if you are an introvert.

Understanding the Concept of Wintering

“Wintering” is a term used to describe a period of rest, reflection, and resilience-building during challenging or dormant times in life, similar to the quiet, restorative phase that winter represents in nature. British author Katherine May popularized this idea in her book, Wintering: The Power of Rest and Retreat in Difficult Times. She explains that “wintering” is about embracing life’s inevitable difficulties—grief, loss, illness, and uncertainty—rather than pushing through or ignoring these life transitions.

Wintering in the Summer

Wintering is not limited to the literal winter season; rather, it’s a metaphor for any period in life when we feel the need to slow down, recharge, and focus inward. It represents a way of coping with life transitions by recognising and accepting times of hardship or stagnation as natural and necessary phases of life. Much like winter in nature, these “winters” of our lives force us to slow down, withdraw, and conserve energy. As May puts it, “Wintering is a season in the cold. It is a fallow period in life when you’re cut off from the world, feeling rejected, sidelined, blocked from progress, or cast into the role of an outsider.”

These experiences might be triggered by illness, life events such as bereavement or the birth of a child, or by other challenges, such as humiliation or failure. Wintering may also accompany slower, more gradual changes, like the ending of a relationship, increased caregiving responsibilities, or the erosion of confidence. Whether sudden or gradual, wintering is often involuntary, lonely, and deeply painful. Rather than resisting these quieter periods, wintering encourages us to approach them with self-awareness and compassion, acknowledging that personal growth often requires seasons of retreat and reflection.

Wintering – a Crash Course in Resilience Training?

Wintering invites us to practice in-depth self-care, which may involve allowing ourselves to rest, leaning into support networks, or focusing on small, restorative routines. This practice also includes accepting the discomfort that accompanies life’s pauses—moments when we feel out of sync with the world’s constant forward momentum and are faced with transitions, such as a career change, divorce, illness, or burnout.

May suggests that “wintering” can serve as a form of resilience training, helping us better navigate inevitable low points. By learning to recognize and respect our need for wintering, we can recover more fully and eventually re-emerge with a renewed sense of purpose, much like the arrival of spring after winter.

Using Wintering as a Coping Strategy During Major Life Changes

May emphasizes that wintering is not about resisting difficult times but rather about adapting and preparing, much like how plants and animals respond to winter. She notes that “Plants and animals don’t fight the winter; they don’t pretend it’s not happening… They prepare. They adapt. They perform extraordinary acts of metamorphosis to get them through.” Wintering involves withdrawing, maximizing limited resources, and conserving energy, which May argues is where true transformation occurs.

Wintering also involves acknowledging that unhappiness serves a purpose: it signals that something needs to change and invites us to adapt. May encourages viewing wintering as a functional response, a natural cue for reflection and preparation for what lies ahead.

Wintering can Increase Your Emotional Intelligence (EQ)

Importantly, May views wintering as a cyclical, natural part of life. It’s not a permanent state but a transformative period leading ultimately to renewal. As she poetically describes, “Life meanders like a path through the woods. We have seasons when we flourish and seasons when the leaves fall from us, revealing our bare bones. Given time, they grow again.”

May suggests that the process of wintering includes consciously choosing how to navigate challenging periods. This means slowing down, allowing spare time to expand, getting enough sleep, and resting—all of which she describes as “a radical act” in a culture focused on productivity.

Wintering as an Invitation to Transformation

“To get better at wintering,” May writes, “we need to address our very notion of time. We tend to imagine that our lives are linear, but they are in fact cyclical.” She notes that while we grow older, we also move through recurring cycles of health, doubt, freedom, and constraint. Recognizing these cycles can help us manage difficulties, as we remember that challenges are temporary and will eventually pass.

Ultimately, wintering invites us to transition into a more sustainable life, allowing for deep reflection, recuperation, and even personal revolution. It is about embracing the wisdom found in our most challenging moments and emerging transformed.

How Wintering Nurtures the Introverted Soul

Embracing the concept of “wintering” offers several key benefits for introverts, particularly during times of life transitions. Katherine May’s exploration of wintering highlights the importance of rest, reflection, and personal growth, which align well with the natural inclinations of introverts.

One significant benefit is the opportunity for solitude and introspection. Introverts often recharge through solitary activities, and wintering provides a perfect backdrop for this. The quieter, colder months naturally lead to fewer social obligations, allowing introverts to retreat into their own space and engage in reflective practices such as reading, journaling, or creative pursuits. This solitude can foster a deeper understanding of oneself and one’s emotions, enabling introverts to process their thoughts and feelings without the pressure of external social interactions.

Additionally, wintering encourages self-acceptance and emotional honesty. May emphasizes that wintering is about acknowledging and embracing feelings of sadness or isolation rather than suppressing them. For introverts, who may already be inclined to internalize their emotions, this aspect can be particularly liberating. Accepting these emotions as part of the human experience allows them to navigate their feelings with compassion and understanding, reducing feelings of guilt or shame associated with needing time alone.

The process of wintering also promotes rest and recuperation, which is vital for mental health. In a society that often glorifies constant productivity, introverts can benefit from the permission to slow down and prioritize self-care during difficult times. May advocates for taking time to rest without guilt, which aligns with introverts’ natural tendencies to seek quiet and comfort. This focus on restorative practices can lead to improved mental clarity and emotional resilience, essential for facing life transitions.

Moreover, wintering facilitates meaningful connections in a low-pressure environment. While introverts may find large social gatherings draining, winter provides opportunities for intimate interactions with close friends or family. Engaging in cosy activities like sharing a meal or watching a movie together allows for deeper conversations and connections without the overwhelming stimuli that often accompany larger social settings.

Finally, embracing wintering can lead to personal transformation. May suggests that these periods of retreat are not just about enduring hardship but about preparing for renewal and growth. For introverts facing life transitions, this perspective can transform how they view challenges—seeing them as opportunities for self-discovery and evolution rather than merely obstacles to overcome.

5 Common Misconceptions about Wintering, particularly as it relates to Introverts:

  1. Wintering Equals Loneliness: One prevalent myth is that wintering leads to feelings of loneliness for introverts. While introverts do value solitude, this does not mean they are lonely. Many find comfort and peace in their own company during winter, using the time to recharge and reflect without feeling isolated or disconnected from others[3][4].
  2. Introverts Dread Winter: Another misconception is that introverts dislike winter due to its cold and dark nature. In reality, many introverts appreciate the slower pace and quieter environment that winter brings, allowing them to engage in solitary activities like reading, writing, or creative hobbies. This season often provides a welcome break from the overstimulation of busier months[1][4].
  3. Wintering Means Complete Isolation: Some believe that embracing wintering requires total withdrawal from social interactions. However, introverts can still maintain meaningful connections during winter by engaging in low-pressure social activities, such as intimate gatherings or one-on-one conversations. These interactions can be enriching and fulfilling without overwhelming them[2][4].
  4. All Introverts Thrive in Solitude: While many introverts enjoy solitary time, not all thrive exclusively in isolation during winter. Some may still seek out social interactions that align with their preferences for depth and intimacy rather than large gatherings. It’s important to recognize that introversion exists on a spectrum, and individual preferences can vary significantly[3].
  5. Wintering is Only About Rest: Lastly, there is a misconception that wintering is solely about rest and inactivity. In fact, wintering can be a time of personal growth and creativity for introverts. They can use this period to explore new hobbies or deepen existing interests, turning what might be seen as a stagnant time into an opportunity for transformation and self-discovery[5].

By addressing these misconceptions, we can better understand how introverts can effectively embrace the concept of wintering as a time for reflection, renewal, and personal growth rather than viewing it through a lens of loneliness or inactivity.

Final Thoughts

Katherine May’s “Wintering” is an invaluable resource for introverts navigating life transitions, offering profound insights and practical guidance that resonate deeply with their unique experiences. The book’s central theme—embracing periods of retreat and reflection—aligns perfectly with the natural inclinations of introverts, who often find solace and strength in solitude.

As May explains, wintering is not merely about enduring hardship; it is an opportunity for introspection, emotional healing, and personal growth. For introverts facing major life changes, the book provides a comforting reminder that these periods of difficulty are a normal part of life’s cyclical nature. Rather than feeling pressured to conform to societal expectations of constant productivity and engagement, introverts can find validation for their need for rest.

May’s emphasis on self-compassion empowers introverts to embrace their quieter nature and recognise that taking time for themselves is not only acceptable but essential for resilience and renewal. The practices and reflections shared in “Wintering” offer practical tools that introverts can apply to their own lives, transforming challenging times into opportunities for introspective growth.

In essence, “Wintering” serves as a gentle guide for introverts, reminding them that they are not alone in their struggles and that embracing the winter seasons of life can lead to profound transformation. By reading this book, introverts can cultivate a deeper understanding of themselves and emerge from life transitions with renewed strength, clarity, and purpose.

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An Introvert’s Guide to Savouring the Christmas Season

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Featuring 12 tailormade excuses to use when you need to dodge yet another Christmas party

Even though it is only the middle of November, I am already planning for the Christmas season. My Book Lover’s Christmas Binge Reading Retreat is fully booked. It starts on the 22nd of December, and I still have loads to do before my guests arrive! Some shops are already selling Christmas decorations and my friend Jenny and I have started practising for this year’s Christmas Carol concert.

Christmas can be a difficult time for introverts. Most of us end up with the inevitable introvert hangover by the 26th, if not before. I usually start pacing myself in the beginning of December – our season here stretches from to 6th of December with St Nicolas’ Day, to the 6th of January, which is Epiphany, or the day of the Three Kings. So from the first of December, I wake up 30 minutes earlier than usual to enjoy my first cup of coffee in complete solitude. I simply sit in quiet contemplation. This private time helps ground me before the day’s activities, and later festivities, begin.

I put up the tree and decorate the house before the 5th, and I try to decorate as mindfully as possible. I set aside an afternoon or evening just for this. I listen to my favourite Christmas Carols, in English and in French, mindfully sip a hot chocolate, light a Christmas-scented candle and slowly unpack each precious ornament, most of them loaded with memories of past Christmases.

I put the Advent calendars for friends and family together and set out the Advent candles towards the end of November, as the 1st Advent Sunday is usually the last one in November. I update the online Advent calendar I share each year with friends and family far away, this year I don’t think I’ll bother with Facebook, I’ll post each day on Instagram, and maybe on Pinterest. I might even dare greatly and post daily on LinkedIn, in my Savoir Vivre Vignettes LinkedIn newsletter.

This year, I’m going to be even more selective about holiday gatherings. I don’t want to be exhausted before my retreat even starts. I am going to choose only events that truly matter to me and politely decline the rest. I’ll schedule some decompression time before and after. in the company of the horses, no matter how cold it is, I’ll just wrap up warm. I’m also going to set a time limit for myself at parties, I usually start deflating after two-and-a-half, three hours, so whenever possible, I’ll stick to this limit.

It is also my birthday month, just before Christmas, just before the retreat starts, so I really need to pace myself. I have long since discovered that the success of each retreat is first and foremost dependent on how well rested I am at the beginning of the retreat.

So I’m going to make time to read, my favourite introvert-batteries-recharge activity, before the retreats starts. Although it’s a reading retreat, and every introvert’s dream Christmas getaway, I don’t get much time myself to read, so I’ll have to indulge in my favourite pastime before and after.

Wintering, for me, starts on the 26th of December. I go for short, solo walks, and I note things like the first frost, winter birds at your feeder, or the way snow transforms familiar landscapes in my journal. My retreat guests sometimes walk a short section of the Camino de Santiago, should the weather permit it. This practice helps ground them in the natural rhythm of the season.

To make the Christmas season less overwhelming and exhausting this year, you might want to:

1. Plan and be Prepared. Set a clear vision for your holiday season, perhaps choosing a guiding word like “serene” or “laid-back” to help prioritise activities that resonate with you. Journaling nearly always helps me recharge my batteries, so I have included 5 journaling prompts at the end of this post to help you prepare for the Christmas season.

2. Shop Online. Avoid crowded malls by doing all your holiday shopping online. This allows for thoughtful gift selection without the stress of busy stores.

3. Limit Social Engagements. Schedule only a few social events on your calendar, allowing plenty of downtime in between to recharge. Aim for one or two activities per day at most.

4. Create Buffer Days. Add buffer days to your schedule before and after major events to give yourself time to rest and prepare mentally.

5. Host Intimate Gatherings. Consider hosting small gatherings in your own space where you feel most comfortable. This can be less stressful than attending larger events.

6. Declare Socialising-Free Days. Reserve certain days solely for family time or personal relaxation, ensuring you have time to unwind without social obligations.

7. Practice Self-Care. Prioritise sleep and self-care routines throughout the season to maintain your energy levels. Avoid late nights and excessive sugar or caffeine.

8. Take Breaks During Events. During gatherings, step away when needed to recharge. A few deep breaths in a quiet space can help reset your energy levels.

9. Engage Mindfully. At social events, focus on meaningful interactions rather than trying to engage with everyone. You might take on a supportive role, such as helping in the kitchen, which can ease social pressure

10. Unplug from Technology. Limit screen time during the holidays to reduce overstimulation. Consider setting aside specific times to check your phone or social media.

11. Embrace Imperfection. Let go of the need for everything to be perfect during the holidays. Focus on enjoying the moments rather than stressing over details.

12. Reflect on What You Love. Take time to reflect on what you truly enjoy about the holiday season, whether it’s traditions, food, or family connections. This can help shift your focus from stressors to joyful aspects of the season.

The key to enjoying the season as an introvert is creating enough space between social engagements to fully process and appreciate each experience. Don’t feel guilty about taking the time you need to recharge your batteries – it allows you to be more present when you do engage with others.

To help you create enough space between social engagements to recharge your batteries, you’ll find 12 tailormade excuses to use when you need to dodge yet another Christmas party below:

  1. “My cat is having an experiential crisis. Mr. Whiskers has developed a fear of one of the Christmas tree ornaments and needs emotional support. I can’t leave him alone with all those shiny ornaments; he might have a nervous breakdown!”
  2. “I forgot I signed up for an online course on making a gingerbread house at the end of last year. Turns out, it’s a three-hour live session, no replay, and it was quite expensive, so I can’t miss it! Who knew making gingerbread houses could be this challenging?”
  3. “I’m in training for the ‘Couch Potato Olympics’. I’ve committed to perfecting my couch-sitting technique and need to stay home to practice my snack-scoffing skills.”
  4. “I’m auditioning for a role in ‘Home Alone 5’. The director said he needs someone who can convincingly fend off intruders while simultaneously avoiding social interactions. He thinks I could be perfect for the part!”
  5. “My plants are throwing a holiday party and I’m their designated DJ. They’ve been feeling neglected, and I promised them I’d host a festive gathering just for them—complete with a plant-friendly sound-and-light show.”
  6. “I’ve developed an allergic reaction to Christmas Carols from over-exposure. Every time I hear ‘Jingle Bells,’ my skin breaks out in hives! I’ve tried antihistamines without any noticeable effect!”
  7. “I’m busy rewatching every season of my favourite show. It’s a full-time job at this point, and I simply can’t take a break from my binge-watching responsibilities.”
  8. “My refrigerator is on the fritz. I need to stay home to monitor it—if it starts making weird noises again, it might just explode with leftover fermented eggnog!”
  9. “I signed up for an intense meditation retreat and I’m really looking forward to it. It’s called ‘Silence is Golden,’ and they strictly enforce no talking—can’t wait!”
  10. “I’m conducting an experiment on how long I can avoid social interaction in any shape or form. It’s purely for scientific advancement! The results could change the way introverts approach the Christmas holidays forever.”
  11. “I’ve been tasked with protecting the remote control from a potential hostile takeover by aliens. Someone has to ensure that ‘The Great British Bake Off’ isn’t interrupted by holiday movie marathons! It’s a huge responsibility.”
  12. “I’m hosting an exclusive dinner party for my imaginary friends. They’re very picky eaters, so I have to make sure everything is perfect.”

5 Journaling prompts designed to you navigate the demands of the Christmas season with greater self-awareness:

1. Identify Your Boundaries

  • Prompt: “List all the holiday activities, events, or obligations that typically drain your energy. Then, reflect on why these feel draining. What boundaries could you set to protect your energy? How can you communicate these boundaries gently but clearly?”
  • Why It Helps: This prompt encourages introverts to get clear on their holiday “musts” versus “maybes” and “definitely nots,” making the season much less overwhelming.

2. Define Your Ideal Christmas Experience

  • Prompt: “Imagine you could create the perfect Christmas holiday without any obligations or expectations from others. Describe what that holiday would look like in detail—what would you do, whom (if anyone) would you spend time with, and how would you spend your day? How can you incorporate some of these elements into your actual holiday this year?”
  • Why It Helps: By envisioning their ideal holiday, introverts can identify small, achievable changes that would make the season feel more aligned with their true preferences and less like an obligation.

3. Create an Energy Management Plan

  • Prompt: “Think about the times in past Christmas seasons when you felt drained or overwhelmed. What were the specific triggers, and how did you cope? This year, list three ways you can proactively protect your energy—whether that’s scheduling downtime, saying no to certain gatherings, or bringing a grounding activity (like a favourite book or journal) to a busy event.”
  • Why It Helps: This helps introverts be intentional about managing their energy, planning ahead to avoid burnout, and equipping themselves with tools to recharge if they start to feel overwhelmed.

4. Reflect on Meaningful Connections

  • Prompt: “Make a list of the people you genuinely look forward to seeing or connecting with during the holidays. Reflect on what you value most about these connections. Are there ways you could prioritise quality time with these people rather than spreading yourself too thin? Write about one or two ways you could deepen those connections this season.”
  • Why It Helps: This exercise encourages introverts to prioritise relationships that nourish them, focusing on meaningful interactions rather than large gatherings that may feel draining.

5. Plan for Post-Holiday Recovery

  • Prompt: “The holiday season is often followed by an energy slump. What are some activities or routines that typically help you recharge after social events? Imagine you’re crafting your own mini retreat for post-holiday restoration. What would you include, and how could you set aside time to honour this recovery?”
  • Why It Helps: By planning their post-holiday recovery, introverts give themselves permission to look forward to a period of restoration, reducing any stress or overwhelm around the holiday demands.

Final Thoughts

For introverts, the Christmas holidays often bring an overwhelming blend of social obligations, endless festivities, and the pressure to meet everyone’s expectations. What if you could escape the holiday chaos altogether though? Attending a Book Lovers Christmas Binge Reading Retreat here in the southwest of France offers the perfect antidote for introverts seeking to avoid the holiday stress and find true enjoyment in the season. Imagine cosying up with a stack of your favourite books, surrounded by fellow book lovers who also crave the quiet and comfort of a drama-free Christmas season. This retreat provides a welcoming space to unwind, recharge your batteries, and immerse yourself in stories that bring you joy—no small talk or holiday obligations required! By choosing this retreat, you’ll give yourself the gift of a peaceful, meaningful holiday tailored to your unique needs, ensuring you start the new year refreshed and fulfilled.

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Life Transitional Intelligence: The Science of Successful Life Changes

Frameworks to help you navigate personal or professional life transitions with confidence

I recently re-read Bruce Feiler’s excellent book Life Is in the Transitions: Mastering Change at Any Age, in which he describes life transitions as a three-phase process:

  • The Long Goodbye – where you recognise the need for change and begin letting go of the old way of life.
  • The Messy Middle – where you’re in between the old and new, grappling with uncertainty, learning new ways, and trying to find your footing.
  • The New Beginning – where you integrate what you’ve learned and settle into your new reality.

Some of the life transitions I have struggled through did indeed consist of these 3 phases, but not all. Certainly not the last life transition, or rather a collection of life transitions, I had to process and integrate. Bruce Feiler, with great accuracy, calls this the “Pileup Phenomenon.” I prefer “Cluster of Life Crashes” – all the fiction writing courses I attended are finally starting to pay off.

As far as I can gather, one determining factor is whether a life transition is voluntary (47%) as in deciding to start a business, or involuntary (53%) as in losing a loved one. So I looked around at what other frameworks have been proposed to help people get through life transitions.

I found several, some specific to life transitions, like William Bridges’ Transition Model, and others applicable to life transitions, like Elizabeth Kübler-Ross’s Five Stages of Grief. My list is not exhaustive, I have just listed the most interesting options below, with a short summary of each phase. The problem I have with some of these frameworks is that transitions, in my experience, are rarely that linear. I often seem to move one step back for each two steps forward, and the phases often overlap. I found the last option, the Hero’s Journey, the most useful, probably not all that surprising if you take my love for writing fiction into account.

1. William Bridges’ Transition Model

  • Phases: Ending, Losing, Letting Go → The Neutral Zone → The New Beginning
  • Details:
    • Ending, Losing, Letting Go: This phase involves the initial shock, denial, or sadness that often comes with change. It’s a time for acknowledging and processing the loss of the old, whether it’s an identity, routine, or role. Recognising what’s ending is essential to moving forward.
    • The Neutral Zone: The most uncomfortable yet creative part of the transition, the Neutral Zone, is marked by confusion, instability, and feeling “in-between.” It’s also a time of exploration and experimentation, where we can begin to explore new perspectives and ideas.
    • The New Beginning: In this phase, there’s a sense of renewal and reintegration. After navigating the Neutral Zone, we begin to form a new identity or integrate new habits, settling into a fresh way of living or being.

“In other words, change is situational. Transition, on the other hand, is psychological. It is not those events, but rather the inner reorientation and self-redefinition that you have to go through in order to incorporate any of those changes into your life. Without a transition, a change is just a rearrangement of the furniture. Unless transition happens, the change won’t work, because it doesn’t “take.” – William Bridges, Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes

2. Elizabeth Kübler-Ross’s Five Stages of Grief

  • Phases: Denial → Anger → Bargaining → Depression → Acceptance
  • Details:
    • Denial: This is the initial stage of disbelief, where the mind may struggle to process the change or loss.
    • Anger: As reality sets in, frustration and resentment may surface, often directed at oneself, others, or the situation itself.
    • Bargaining: Here, people may try to “negotiate” with the change, hoping they can avoid the transition or mitigate the loss in some way.
    • Depression: This stage often brings sadness, hopelessness, and self-reflection, acknowledging the impact of the change.
    • Acceptance: Acceptance brings a readiness to move forward, integrating the loss or change as part of life.
  • Originally associated with grieving, these stages are now broadly applied to any transition involving loss, whether that’s a career, relationship, or lifestyle change. This framework seems to work best for involuntary life transitions.

“There is within each one of us a potential for goodness beyond our imagining; for giving which seeks no reward; for listening without judgment; for loving unconditionally. There are no mistakes, no coincidences. All events are blessings given to us to learn from.” – Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

3. Prochaska and DiClemente’s Stages of Change (Transtheoretical Model)

  • Phases: Precontemplation → Contemplation → Preparation → Action → Maintenance → Relapse (optional)
  • Details:
    • Precontemplation: No intention to change yet; the issue may not even be recognised.
    • Contemplation: Awareness of the need for change begins, leading to weighing pros and cons.
    • Preparation: There’s a readiness to change, with planning and small steps toward action.
    • Action: Active steps are taken toward the new behaviour or lifestyle.
    • Maintenance: New behaviours are sustained, with strategies to prevent relapse.
    • Relapse (optional): Setbacks may occur, often followed by a renewed commitment to action.
  • I like the “optional” relapse option. This model seems effective for voluntary behaviour-based transitions (e.g., quitting smoking, exercising, losing weight, changing careers), offering a realistic view of the non-linear path to lasting change.

“It is easy as A (antecedents) B (behaviour) C (consequences). Antecedents can trigger a problem behaviour, while the consequences reward or strengthen it, no matter how maladaptive it is.” ― James O. Prochaska, Changing for Good

4. Erik Erikson’s Stages of Psychosocial Development

  • Phases: Eight stages throughout life, from Trust vs. Mistrust in infancy to Integrity vs. Despair in old age.
  • Details:
    • Erik Erikson’s eight stages span the entire lifespan, with each stage presenting a key “crisis” that influences personal growth. The stages are: Trust vs. Mistrust in infancy, where developing trust in caregivers is crucial; Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt during toddlerhood, focusing on independence; Initiative vs. Guilt in early childhood, encouraging initiative and planning; Industry vs. Inferiority in school-age children, where competence is developed; Identity vs. Role Confusion during adolescence, centred on self-identity; Intimacy vs. Isolation in young adulthood, where forming close relationships is key; Generativity vs. Stagnation in middle adulthood, focusing on contributing to society and helping the next generation; and Integrity vs. Despair in older adulthood, where reflecting on life with a sense of fulfilment or regret defines one’s sense of integrity.
    • Successfully navigating each stage leads to growth and strengthens one’s identity; unresolved issues can lead to challenges in future stages.
  • Erikson’s model is helpful for understanding transitions specific to different life stages, particularly in the context of developmental tasks.

“Life doesn’t make any sense without interdependence. We need each other, and the sooner we learn that, the better for us all” – Erik Erikson

5. Jack Mezirow’s Four Stages of Transformational Learning

  • Phases: Disorienting Dilemma → Self-Examination → Exploration of New Roles → Reintegration
  • Details:
    • Disorienting Dilemma: A life event disrupts established beliefs, leading to questioning.
    • Self-Examination: Reflection on personal beliefs, values, and habits in light of the disruption.
    • Exploration of New Roles: Experimenting with new perspectives, behaviours, and identities.
    • Reintegration: Integrating new ways of thinking and being into everyday life.

“Critical reflection is not concerned with the ‘how’ of action, but with the ‘why’, the reasons for and the consequences of what we do...Reflection on one’s own premises can lead to transformative learning.” – Jack Mezirow

6. The Phoenix 3-Step Approach

  • Phases: The Ending (Burning Phase), the Void (Ashes Phase) the Rebirth (Rising Phase)
  • Details
    • The Ending (Burning Phase): This phase represents the conscious acknowledgement that a chapter of your life is closing. During this time, you’re called to face and process your emotions about the change while actively releasing what no longer serves you. It’s like preparing to move homes – you must sort through your belongings, decide what to keep, and let go of what you’ve outgrown. This phase requires courage and honesty as you face the reality of what’s ending.
    • The Void (Ashes Phase): This is the mysterious middle space where you exist between your old and new life. This phase often feels uncomfortable because nothing is certain, but it’s incredibly rich with potential. Like a seed in dark soil or a caterpillar in its cocoon, this is where deep transformation happens. You’re invited to rest, reflect, and resist the urge to rush into what’s next. This phase is about getting comfortable with not knowing and allowing your new direction to emerge organically.
    • The Rebirth (Rising Phase): This phase marks the period where you actively begin creating your new chapter. Drawing on the wisdom gained from your time in the void, you start taking concrete steps toward your emerging future. Like a phoenix rising from the ashes, you begin to embody your new identity and direction. This phase is characterised by experimentation, gradual forward movement, and the integration of lessons learned through your transition.

7. Joseph Campbell’s Hero’s Journey (Monomyth)

  • Phases: The Call to Adventure → Crossing the Threshold → Trials and Challenges → Transformation → Return with the Elixir
  • Details:
    • The Call to Adventure: A challenge or opportunity prompts the hero to leave their comfort zone.
    • Crossing the Threshold: This is a decisive step into the unknown, marking a commitment to the journey.
    • Trials and Challenges: The hero encounters obstacles that build resilience and test their resolve.
    • Transformation: A turning point or revelation leads to growth and change.
    • Return with the Elixir: Having transformed, the hero returns to the ordinary world with newfound wisdom.
  • Often used to frame personal growth journeys, the Hero’s Journey reflects the idea that challenges can lead to transformation.

The Hero’s Journey can be especially useful in framing voluntary life transitions, as it emphasises the hero’s choice to answer a “call” to change, face challenges, and ultimately grow. Voluntary transitions, like a career change, relocation, or end of a relationship, often involve deliberate decisions that align well with the Hero’s Journey stages. These transitions typically have a clear beginning and end, with the person actively engaging in the journey of transformation and self-discovery.

However, the Hero’s Journey can also be applied to involuntary transitions, though the journey often looks different. In these cases—such as the sudden loss of a loved one, an unexpected health crisis, or a job loss—the “call to adventure” may feel like something thrust upon the hero. The framework can still provide value by helping people see how challenges, even those they didn’t choose, can lead to profound personal growth.

So while it is perhaps most straightforward for voluntary transitions, the Hero’s Journey can still provide powerful insights into the resilience and transformation that can emerge from any major life change, whether chosen or unchosen.

“Opportunities to find deeper powers within ourselves come when life seems most challenging.” – Joseph Campbell

My “From Troubled to Triumphant” Camino walking retreats offer an ideal opportunity for anyone trying to cope with a life transition, especially a life quake, to experience the Hero’s Journey firsthand, from “call to adventure” to “return with wisdom.”

– The Call to Adventure: You may feel drawn to this retreat as a way to address the challenges you’re facing, whether it’s a career change, ending a relationship, or financial hardship. Choosing to walk the Camino can also become your response to this “call,” representing your willingness to step into the unknown and commit to personal growth.

– Crossing the Threshold: Arriving at the Camino and beginning the walk is a powerful symbolic crossing. Physically leaving your day-to-day life behind and stepping into a new environment helps you embrace the journey you’re on, both mentally and emotionally. Here, you can begin to let go any roles, identities, or routines that may have held you back.

– Tests, Allies, and Enemies: The Camino’s challenges—such as physical fatigue, self-doubt, or emotional ups and downs—mirror the obstacles on the Hero’s Journey. In the process, you find allies in other walkers, while your “inner critics” or limiting beliefs become the “enemies” to overcome. Facing and working through these challenges on the trail provides powerful, real-time insights into your personal struggle.

– The Ordeal: Midway through the retreat, you may experience a breakthrough or intense moment of reflection. This could be prompted by the solitude of the walk, a deep conversation, or even a challenging section of the trail. This “ordeal” can bring about powerful realisations as you confront past fears, regrets, or doubts, emerging with newfound strength.

– The Reward: Following this ordeal, you begin to feel lighter and clearer, gaining insights into yourself, your values, and your goals. This is often accompanied by a sense of empowerment or an “inner reward”—a feeling of progress and pride for persevering, or clarity about what you want from your next chapter.

– The Road Back: As you near the end of the retreat, you may start thinking about how you’ll apply these lessons to your daily life. You prepare to “return” to your everyday environments, equipped with the personal growth, insights, and resilience you’ve acquired on the Camino.

– The Resurrection: In this phase, you feel transformed, ready to face your challenges from a place of renewal. By connecting with your authentic self and learning to let go of what no longer serves you, you’re able to approach your transition with a refreshed perspective and purpose.

– Return with the Elixir: The retreat culminates in the participants “bringing back” newfound wisdom, self-awareness, and confidence. They return home not just having walked a trail, but with a greater sense of self and clarity about the next steps in their journey, which can positively impact their relationships, careers, and personal paths.

In essence, the Camino serves as both a literal and metaphorical Hero’s Journey. By aligning the retreat with this framework, participants can see their own life transition as part of a larger, transformative story—one that’s universal, empowering, and ultimately triumphant.

Final Thoughts

Although I favour the Hero’s Journey, each framework offers something unique. During my From Troubled to Triumphant Life Transition retreats, I often combine insights from several frameworks to provide a fuller understanding of life transitions, helping my guests navigate the stages with more self-compassion.

Hit the pause button and regain your footing during a From Troubled to Triumphant Retreat. Imagine walking a peaceful stretch of the Camino de Santiago, where every step helps untangle the mental clutter or spending time with gentle Friesian horses who teach you the art of mindfulness. Whether you choose to make a change or are forced to, this retreat offers the perfect blend of peace, perspective, and playful exploration to help you rise from troubled to triumphant!

Author Bio: Dr Margaretha Montagu – described as a “game changer”, “gifted healer”, “guiding light” and “life-enriching author” – is an experienced medical doctor, a certified NLP practitioner, a medical hypnotherapist, an equine-assisted psychotherapist (EAGALAcertified) and a transformational retreat leader who guides her clients through life transitions – virtually, or with the assistance of her Friesian and Falabella horses, at their home in the southwest of France.

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The Introvert’s Guide to Communicating with Impact (Without Compromising Your Authentic Self)

12 Unconventional Communication Strategies That Work for Introverted Personalities

Introverts often get labelled as the “quiet ones,” the “deep thinkers,” the “observers” in a world that seems to worship those who can hold court in a room and sell ice to penguins. Introverts actually have a unique superpower when it comes to communication. They’re naturally perceptive, they listen (like, really listen), and they cut through distracting noise like a hot knife through butter.

So, why would an introvert—someone who already understands the art of subtlety and the value of silence—need to level up their communication game? Because even the most brilliant ideas fall flat if they’re not shared in a way that resonates. Whether you want to land that dream job, build authentic connections, or simply be heard without compromising who you are, learning to use your (few) words to the greatest effect can be a game-changer.

In this article, I’d like to look at the why and the how. I struggle with marketing, it’s counterintuitive for me as an introvert. Obviously, I want to become better at it, but without sacrificing who I am. Effective communication shouldn’t be about trying to be someone else; it should be about amplifying the strengths you already have—no forced small talk required.

Let’s start by looking at the “Why?”

Why Introverts may want to improve their Communication Skills

Introverts might want to improve their communication skills for a variety of personal and professional reasons. Strong communication skills can help introverts express themselves more confidently, form more meaningful connections, and feel more comfortable in social and work environments. More effective communication skills can:

  1. Enhance Your Career Opportunities: Communication skills are essential in most professional settings, from networking and interviewing to leading teams and presenting ideas. Introverts with strong communication skills are better equipped to showcase their talents and ideas, opening doors to new career possibilities. Introverts may want to improve their ability to communicate effectively to unlock new professional opportunities, raise their visibility, and build better relationships with colleagues and clients.

  2. Help You Build Stronger Relationships: Effective communication helps deepen connections with friends, family, and partners. For introverts, who may prefer smaller, more intimate settings, improving communication skills can lead to more fulfilling personal relationships, allowing them to express their thoughts and needs clearly and build trust. Stronger relationships also mean a stronger support system.

  3. Enable You to Express Your Needs and Boundaries: Introverts often benefit from time alone to recharge, but without clear communication, it can be challenging to convey these needs to others. Good communication skills make it easier to set time, space, and conditional boundaries that promote their well-being whether it’s at work, in social settings, or in personal relationships, ensuring their voices are heard and their interests respected.

  4. Increase Your Self-Confidence: Introverts sometimes feel anxious or uncertain in social situations, especially when they have to speak up in large groups. Improving communication skills can boost confidence in social interactions. Introverts who practice clear and calm communication often feel more empowered to engage in conversations and step out of their comfort zones without feeling drained.

  5. Emphasise Your Leadership Abilities: Even though introverts may not always gravitate toward leadership roles, many introverted leaders excel by using their reflective, empathetic, and thoughtful communication style. By improving communication, introverts can harness their unique strengths to lead by sharing insights, motivating teams, and inspiring others in ways that feel authentic to their natural style.

  6. Enhance Your Ability to Problem-Solving through Collaboration: Many work environments and projects require collaboration and teamwork. Introverts may need to speak up more often, share ideas, or offer feedback. Effective communication makes it easier to brainstorm, negotiate, and collaborate with others. For introverts, developing these skills can facilitate teamwork and problem-solving without unnecessary tension or discomfort.

  7. Make It Easier to Manage Conflict: Introverts may sometimes be perceived as withdrawn or disinterested when, in fact, they’re simply processing information. Improving communication skills can reduce these misunderstandings, allowing introverts to be more accurately understood and appreciated for who they are. Introverts may also find it challenging to address confrontations, but by strengthening their communication skills, they can navigate difficult conversations with greater calm and clarity, leading to more positive resolutions.

  8. Increase Your Influence and Impact: Good communication helps introverts make a stronger impact, whether in the workplace, community or in advocacy. By refining their communication skills, they can share their ideas, vision, and values more persuasively, thus having a greater influence on others.

  9. Help you Navigate Social Events with Ease: Many introverts find social gatherings draining, but strong communication skills can ease some of the anxiety around small talk and networking. Knowing how to approach conversations with confidence helps make social situations more manageable and enjoyable.

  10. Facilitate Expressing Your Creativity and Interests: Many introverts have deep passions, ideas, or creative projects they’d like to share. Good communication skills can make it easier for them to showcase their work, tell their story, or connect with an audience without feeling uncomfortable.

  11. Expand Your Comfort Zone: Improving communication skills can gently push introverts to engage more fully with the world around them. Gradually increasing their comfort with social interactions can lead to new friendships, professional relationships, and experiences they might otherwise avoid. Whether it’s attending events, joining a new group, or taking on a new role, improved communication makes it easier to participate in unfamiliar situations.

  12. Increase Your Emotional Resilience: Practicing communication skills, like setting boundaries or expressing thoughts assertively, can improve emotional resilience. Introverts who can communicate their needs effectively are often less stressed and better able to handle interpersonal challenges.

Enhancing our communication skills gives us the tools to share our strengths and unique perspectives with confidence and authenticity, enhancing both our personal and professional lives.

“You don’t have to transform yourself into an extrovert to succeed in life or work. As an introvert, what works for you on the job is going to be different from what works for an extrovert—and that’s okay. Give yourself permission to do things that play to your introvert strengths and needs. You can be dazzling in your own quiet way.”
― Jenn Granneman, The Secret Lives of Introverts: Inside Our Hidden World

Now that we are motivated to fine-tune our communications skills, let’s look at how we can do it.

12 Unconventional Ways that Introverts can use to Improve their Communication Skills

  1. Equine-Assisted Coaching: Working with horses helps introverts develop non-verbal communication and assertiveness. Horses respond to body language, energy, and intention, teaching people how to communicate confidently without words. This form of experiential learning can boost self-awareness and communication presence.

  2. Walking Meditation: Walking meditation can clear mental clutter and help introverts focus on the present moment. This clarity makes it easier to listen deeply and speak thoughtfully, which are key components of effective communication.

  3. Record Yourself Speaking: Try recording yourself discussing a topic or telling a story. Listening back can reveal your natural speaking patterns, pacing, and areas for improvement. It also helps reduce any anxiety about how you sound, making real conversations feel easier.

  4. Attend an Improv Class: Improv challenges introverts to respond spontaneously in social situations. This can increase comfort with uncertainty in conversations, teach flexibility in communication, and build confidence in thinking on their feet.

  5. Take a Digital Storytelling Course: Digital storytelling combines visuals with spoken or written narratives, which is a less direct but very creative form of communication. This exercise can help introverts explore their voice and storytelling style, boosting confidence and clarity in verbal communication.

  6. Shadow a Skilled Communicator: Observing a friend or mentor who communicates well in various settings can be incredibly helpful. Take note of their body language, phrasing, and interaction style, and try to integrate elements that resonate with you.

  7. Practice Video Chat Communication: Video calls provide a way to interact that’s less intense than face-to-face but more interactive than text. Using platforms like Zoom, try speaking on camera, recording a message, or even practising group calls to build ease in conversational settings.

  8. Start a Book Club or Discussion Group: If you enjoy reading, starting a book club gives you a structured way to practice expressing your thoughts. The group format is ideal for discussing ideas, voicing opinions, and practising active listening in a setting that’s enjoyable.

  9. Use Voice Messages Instead of Texts: Sending voice messages in place of text-based messages can bridge the gap between written and verbal communication. It allows you to practice speaking naturally without the immediate pressure of a live conversation.

  10. Engage in Structured Social Events: Look for activities like Toastmasters, networking games, or social mixers that provide prompts or themes for conversation. Having structured guidelines can take away the pressure of “small talk” and make it easier to express yourself in a group.

  11. Read Aloud to a Pet (or Horse!): Reading to animals allows you to practice vocal projection, pacing, and tone in a low-stress way. Horses, in particular, are sensitive to energy and tone, which can help you become more mindful of the non-verbal aspects of communication.

  12. Try Role-Playing Communication Scenarios: Whether with a friend, a coach, or even by yourself (in the mirror,) role-playing allows you to rehearse different conversational scenarios. Try practising scenarios like “introducing yourself at a social event” or “speaking up in a meeting.” This makes it easier to gain confidence in real-life situations.

Final Thoughts

At the end of the day, improving your communication skills as an introvert isn’t about trying to outshine extroverts or becoming the loudest voice in the room. It’s about giving yourself the tools to be heard in a way that feels true to you. When you know how to communicate effectively, you’re not just playing along with the world’s need for more chatter—you’re adding substance to the conversation. You’re bringing your insights, your depth, and your ability to really connect to every interaction.

This is how I want to do my marketing. Instead of self-promotion, self-expression.

These unconventional methods can help introverts build communication skills in ways that are less overwhelming, focusing on gradual improvement. Equine-assisted coaching, in particular, can be transformative for introverts – I know this from personal experience – and enable us to practise empowering non-verbal communication skills in a supportive environment.

“Introverts need to trust their gut and share their ideas as powerfully as they can. This does not mean aping extroverts; ideas can be shared quietly, they can be communicated in writing, they can be packaged into highly produced lectures, and they can be advanced by allies. The trick for introverts is to honour their own styles instead of allowing themselves to be swept up by prevailing norms.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking

Imagine having a survival toolkit ready next time you’re hit by a life-shattering transition. My How to Survive a Life Quake 7-part online course isn’t just another hybrid course – with or without coaching – it’s a heartfelt made-with-love guide packed with tools to help you survive and even thrive through life’s toughest transitions, with resilience.

Author Bio: Dr Margaretha Montagu – described as a “game changer”, “gifted healer”, “guiding light” and “life-enriching author” – is an experienced medical doctor, a certified NLP practitioner, a medical hypnotherapist, an equine-assisted psychotherapist (EAGALAcertified) and a transformational retreat leader who guides her clients through life transitions – virtually, or with the assistance of her Friesian and Falabella horses, at their home in the southwest of France.

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Unconventional Activities that Dramatically Enhance Resilience

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“Life transitions are the times in our lives when we don’t know how to tell the stories of our lives anymore.” Bruce Feiler

Are you thriving or just surviving in this grand, chaotic saga of life transitions? Maybe you’re thriving, you’re out there, radiating positive energy, waking up early, and somehow managing to do things like “morning routines” and “self-care Sundays.” People see you and think, Wow, they’re really nailing this whole adulting thing. You’re one green smoothie away from full enlightenment. You’ve got plants that aren’t dead. You make “change” look like a fresh Instagram reel, complete with upbeat music and perfectly filtered light.

Maybe you’re somewhere between striving and barely surviving. You’re getting through your “transition” with a survival kit of coffee, Netflix, and the occasional breakdown in the bathroom. Your motivational mantra sounds something like, “Today… we did not cry in public. Small wins.” Maybe you’ve Googled “how much stress is too much stress,” or taken up a new hobby like staring into space and sighing deeply. When someone says, “Wow, you’re handling this so well,” you laugh just a little too hard, maybe even tear up a bit.

The truth is, life transitions don’t come with a manual. It’s a high-stakes choose-your-own-adventure book, and half the time, you’re flipping back to the last chapter trying to figure out how you got here. Thriving? Striving? Surviving? It’s all relative. One day you’re a self-care icon, the next day you’re eating ice cream for dinner and calling it “self-compassion.”

So let’s raise a glass (or a coffee mug, or a pint of ice cream) to life transitions. Whether you’re out there thriving like a success story or striving like a sleep-deprived squirrel, you’re doing great. Keep going. Or at least keep caffeinated.

12 Unconventional self-care activities that can enhance resilience during challenging times:

  1. Bird Watching: Engaging in bird watching can improve well-being by connecting you with nature and fostering mindfulness. Setting up a bird feeder or exploring local parks can be both relaxing and intellectually stimulating.

  2. Tai Chi: This meditative martial art combines gentle movements with deep breathing, promoting relaxation and mental clarity. Classes in local parks can enhance the experience by connecting you with nature.

  3. Woodworking: This hands-on activity demands focus and creativity, making it an effective way to relieve stress. The repetitive nature of woodworking can be meditative and fulfilling.

  4. Online Learning for Career Change: If work-related stress is a concern, consider enrolling in an online course to explore new career opportunities. This proactive step can provide a sense of control and purpose.

  5. Cold Water Immersion: Regularly exposing yourself to cold water through showers or baths can build mental resilience and improve your overall stress response (not entirely convinced about this one! but some people swear by it.)

  6. Laughter Journaling: Spend time each day reflecting on funny experiences or jokes. Documenting these moments can boost your mood and foster a positive outlook on life.

  7. Improv Comedy Classes: Participating in improv can enhance your ability to think on your feet and embrace uncertainty, which is crucial during life changes.

  8. Mindful Coloring: Using adult colouring books can reduce anxiety and promote mindfulness, allowing you to focus on a simple, enjoyable task. Download Esprit Meraki’s Colouring Book

  9. Engaging in DIY Projects: Taking on creative projects at home can provide a sense of accomplishment and allow for self-expression, which is beneficial for emotional health.

  10. Nature Camping Trips: Disconnecting from technology and spending time in nature can rejuvenate your spirit and help you gain perspective on your challenges.

  11. Experimenting with Sensory Deprivation: Activities like floating in sensory deprivation tanks can enhance self-awareness and emotional regulation, providing a unique way to recharge mentally.

  12. Storytelling: Instead of journaling about stressors, try writing your own stories. This form of escapism provides you with a sense of purpose while diverting attention from your anxiety.

Incorporating these unconventional self-care activities into your routine can help bolster resilience, allowing you to navigate life’s changes with greater resilience.

About no 12: Can Storytelling really Increase Your Resilience?

Absolutely. It’s like free therapy with a dash of creative rebellion.

When you tell your story—really tell it, not just the Instagram-filtered highlights—you’re giving yourself a chance to see your life from the outside. To find humour in the mess, meaning in the monotony, and, maybe, a bit of strength in the parts you thought were too broken to save. You get to piece it all together, decide what matters, and let go of the rest.

Storytelling also rewires your inner narrative. Instead of feeling like life’s just happening to you, you take the pen back. You get to be the hero, the plot twist, the storyteller who owns every step of the journey.

And here’s the best part: when you tell your story, you don’t just help yourself—you offer others a mirror, a laugh, a me too. Storytelling becomes a connection, a release, and a reminder that you’re not in this alone.

Storytelling can be a powerful tool for improving resilience in several ways:

Creating Coherence and Meaning

Storytelling helps you create coherence in your life by organising past experiences into a structured narrative. This process allows you to make sense of your past, present, and future, providing a stable sense of identity and values. By understanding your own stories, you can better cope with stress and trauma, reducing feelings of confusion and overwhelm.

Fostering Connection and Support

Sharing personal stories can strengthen connections with others by building trust and increasing understanding. This shared vulnerability fosters deeper relationships and creates supportive networks that are crucial during challenging times. Storytelling also allows you to celebrate their hardiness and resilience, reinforcing positive self-perception.

Inspiring Action and Motivation

Crafting narratives about desired outcomes or ideal futures can motivate you to take action. By envisioning a compelling story of change or success, you can clarify your vision, set intentions, and influence both yourself and others to pursue their passions. This process ignites determination and provides direction during times of uncertainty.

Enhancing Emotional Insight

Storytelling encourages emotional insight by allowing you to acknowledge and understand your emotions. This process can lead to greater emotional regulation and resilience by helping you separate yourself from your problems and view them from a new perspective.

Stimulating Growth and Learning

Through storytelling, you can reflect on your past experiences, which promotes personal growth and learning. This reflection helps you adapt to new situations, overcome obstacles, and achieve goals, enhancing your sense of competence and confidence. By recounting stories of difficulty and adversity, you can gain insights into your resilience strategies and apply them to future challenges.

Overall, storytelling serves as a multifaceted approach to building resilience by promoting coherence, connection, growth, action, and emotional insight.

Actually, Storytelling plays a crucial role in Personal Growth in several key ways:

Creating Meaning and Identity

First, it helps you to create meaning and identity by making sense of your experiences. By organising past events into structured narratives, you can establish a stable sense of self and values, find meaning in difficult experiences, and gain perspective on your journey. This process of crafting your life story contributes significantly to self-understanding and personal growth.

Encourages Self-reflection and provides Insight

Additionally, storytelling fosters self-reflection and insight. The act of telling your story encourages deep introspection, leading to greater emotional awareness and self-understanding. It helps you identify patterns in your behaviour and decision-making, recognise personal strengths, and pinpoint areas for growth. This reflective process is essential for personal development and can result in positive changes in your attitude and behaviour.

Fine-tune your Coping Skills

Storytelling also fine-tunes your coping skills. Sharing stories of overcoming challenges reinforces your ability to handle adversity, providing a sense of control over past events while offering perspective on current difficulties. By recounting stories of past resilience, you can cultivate confidence in your capacity to face future challenges.

Enhances your Communication Skills

Storytelling also enhances your communication skills and creates deeper social connections. It develops the ability to express your thoughts and emotions effectively while creating understanding between you and your listeners. This improved communication builds trust and intimacy in relationships, which is vital for your mental well-being.

Promotes Flexibility and Adaptability

Stories serve as powerful tools for learning and adaptability. They help you to learn from others’ experiences, encouraging the exploration of new perspectives and original ideas. This process facilitates the integration of new knowledge into your existing mental frameworks, promoting flexibility and adaptability.

Storytelling is such a powerful tool. It helps you to understand yourself, connect with others, build resilience, learn, and inspire change. Storytelling allows you to actively shape your narrative and foster continuous growth throughout your life. An d compelling personal stories, no matter how messy, can inspire action and eventually positive change in others.

How Storytelling can be transformative, especially during Life Transitions:

  1. Career Change: Maybe you are leaving a corporate job. Sara did, to open a coffee-cum-bookshop, and storytelling helped her to frame her decision as a journey of self-discovery. Sharing the story of why she left her previous role and what inspired her new venture gives her a sense of purpose. It also helps her connect with future customers who resonate with her new beginning.

  2. Ending a Long-Term Relationship: If you are struggling at the end of a relationship, storytelling can provide a way to reflect on what happened during the relationship and what lessons you learned and can carry forward. By framing the transition as an empowering narrative of self-discovery, you can shift from feeling loss to seeing the potential for a new, better aligned future.

  3. Empty Nest: If you are facing an empty nest, you can reframe your role by telling the story of the journey from nurturing children to supporting young adults. Sharing this story with your friends, your community, or just writing it all down can help allow you to see your continued importance in your children’s lives, shifting the narrative from “losing purpose” to “evolving purpose.”

  4. Overcoming Burnout: When facing burnout, storytelling can allow you to process how you reached that point and envision a recovery path. Sharing your story in a support group or journaling through the experience can help you understand your boundaries and the patterns that led to burnout, so you can create a healthier work-life balance going forward.

  5. Rediscovering Purpose: Some of my Walking and Writing retreat guests have used storytelling to reflect on their life path, rediscover what brings them fulfilment, and uncover their “next chapter.” As they share this journey, it often becomes a narrative of finding direction, letting go of past doubts, and embracing a renewed sense of purpose.

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Storytelling during life transitions is like drawing a map from where you’ve been to where you want to go, helping you see challenges as parts of a larger story, the story of your life.

Author Bio: Dr Margaretha Montagu – described as a “game changer”, “gifted healer”, “guiding light” and “life-enriching author” – is an experienced medical doctor, a certified NLP practitioner, a medical hypnotherapist, an equine-assisted psychotherapist (EAGALAcertified) and a transformational retreat leader who guides her clients through life transitions – virtually, or with the assistance of her Friesian and Falabella horses, at their home in the southwest of France.

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I’m Done! Celebrate the End of A Life Transition with these Rituals

Rituals

Marking the Milestone: Life Transition Rituals for New Beginnings

Rituals can be powerful tools for marking the end of significant life transitions and helping us mentally, emotionally and sometimes physically move from one chapter to the next. Not the spooky, Macbeth’s-three-witches chanting-in-the-woods kind. I mean those little rituals and routines we turn to when life has decided to throw us a curveball, kicked us out of our comfort zones, and tossed us straight into “new chapter” territory. Whether you’re ending an era (goodbye, ramen-every-night phase) or launching a new one (hello, I’ve-got-this phase), rituals can help us move forward, unhindered.

Key Aspects of Rituals

You may be asking yourself, “What exactly qualifies as a ritual?” My understanding is that a ritual is an action or a set of actions performed in a specific sequence, often with symbolic meaning and a sense of purpose. Rituals can be simple or elaborate and are typically repeated regularly, creating a sense of structure and significance. They are often associated with religious or cultural traditions but can also be secular and personal:

  • Ceremonial Rituals: Rituals are often part of religious services or ceremonies, involving established procedures that are performed consistently over time. This can include rites such as weddings, funerals, and various forms of worship.

  • Cultural Rituals: Beyond religious contexts, rituals can also represent customary behaviours within families or communities, such as weekly gatherings or specific traditions that mark significant events in life. In France, especially the southwest of France, the typical multi-generational Sunday lunch is such a ritual.

  • Personal Rituals: These are repetitive behaviours that individuals perform to alleviate anxiety. Examples include morning routines, journaling, or a weekly relaxation routine like a bath with perfumed candles and calming music.

  • Transition Rituals: These mark important life changes, like moving to a new home, starting a new job, or significant life transitions like marriage, retirement, or divorce.

Rituals help bring a sense of control, stability, and meaning, especially during times of uncertainty or change, by anchoring us in familiar actions. For example, a morning ritual might involve a series of simple activities like stretching, having coffee, and setting intentions for the day, helping to focus and prepare for what lies ahead. Think of these routines and rituals as setting up some guardrails for your mind as it tries to accept a new reality without completely short-circuiting.

So whether you’re doing a solo toast to your past self (one last glass of “cheers-to-not-knowing-what-I’m-doing”,) writing a “breakup letter” to your old job, or finally purging your closet of all those “maybe someday” jeans, your rituals are like breadcrumbs leading you through the chaos, from one life chapter to the next.

Ready to officially kick the old chapter to the curb and usher in something new? Here’s a lineup of rituals—some quirky, some classic—that’ll help you mark the end of your old life and throw open the doors to whatever’s next. Grab a pen, a hot drink, or maybe just take a deep breath, and let’s do it.

20 Ways of Finding Closure at the End of a Life Transition

  1. Write a breakup letter to your past self. Pour out all your feelings about the last chapter—highs, lows, questionable snack choices—then ceremonially burn it, bury it, or send it off like a message in a bottle (note: ocean littering is still a crime).

  2. Make a “letting go” box. Toss in all those artefacts from your old life—movie stubs, the key to your ex’s place, that ancient loyalty card you’ll never use. Then bury it, donate it, or launch it into the void. Goodbye, baggage!

  3. Take a long, thoroughly cleansing shower and let the water rinse off your past like a shower for your soul. Or run yourself a bath with every herb, bath bomb, or box of bath salt you’ve got and soak away the toxins.

  4. Do a cord-cutting meditation to energetically separate yourself from your past. Picture every awkward coffee date and pointless meeting as little strings you’re snipping away. Snip, snip.

  5. Make a memory box of the good stuff. Keep those good memories in a safe place—a sweet reminder you can flip through, even as you march forward.

  6. Visit places that mattered. Take a little “farewell tour” of those places that were iconic in your old life—order that latte, sit on that park bench, and mentally thank them for their service.

  7. Throw an “Out-with-the-Old” party. Invite your favourite people, swap war stories, toast to the nonsense you survived, and let your squad remind you just how far you’ve come.

  8. Self-anoint with intention oils. Just dab on some oils, breathe in, and say, “I got this.”

  9. Get yourself a “power object.” Jewellery, a rock, a figurine—something to carry around as your new “I’m unstoppable” talisman. Don’t knock it till you try it.

  10. Mark the change with a bold new look. Haircut, piercing, tattoo? Why not. Sometimes a little external switch-up is just what you need to send a memo to the universe.

  11. Go natural. Head to the beach or a forest at sunrise, whisper your dreams into the breeze and let nature do its thing.

  12. Start a journal. Because what’s a transition without some dramatic journaling? 30 days to document every “Aha!” moment and new insight.

  13. Moon magic. Plan a mini ritual on the new moon (for fresh starts) or full moon (for letting go). Light a candle, set intentions, and let the lunar vibes do the heavy lifting.

  14. A vision board of that dream life. Glue stick, magazines, all the vibes you want for your new chapter—pin it up where you’ll see it daily. Manifest like you mean it.

  15. Write a letter to future you. Let your hopes and dreams spill out onto the page, seal it, and set a reminder to read it a year from now.

  16. Cross the threshold. Set up a “doorway” with ribbon or chalk, step through, and tell yourself, “Here I go!”

  17. Do a candlelight farewell. Light a candle at sunset on your last day in the old chapter, let it burn until sunrise, then blow it out to signal, “It’s a brand new day.”

  18. Create a personal ceremony incorporating meaningful symbols, words, music, or actions that resonate with your specific transition.

  19. Declutter on a grand scale. Out with anything that screams “old me.” Donate, trash, or pass along the stuff that no longer fits this new era.

  20. Take a solo journey: a road trip, a walk in the park, or a solo pilgrimage – my From Troubled to Triumphant Camino de Santiago walking retreats provide a powerful, immersive way to mark the end of a life transition through ritual. Walking the Camino serves as both a literal and metaphorical journey, allowing you to physically leave behind the old as you step forward into new possibilities. The steady rhythm of walking enables you to reflect, release burdens, and find clarity in nature’s tranquillity. Each step along the Camino can symbolise shedding past worries, and the shared experience with others adds a communal, supportive element that reinforces your resilience. Reaching each milestone or scenic vista along the trail can become a mini-ceremony, celebrating progress with renewed intentions. By the time you reach the retreat’s end, you’ve undergone both an internal and external transformation, embodying a fresh start in sync with nature’s gentle pace.

Research about Rites and Rituals

Research consistently demonstrates the psychological and social value of transition rituals in human experience. A 2018 study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that people who engaged in ritualistic behaviour before challenging life transitions reported feeling more in control and experiencing less anxiety about change. Anthropologists like Victor Turner have long noted that “liminal rituals” – ceremonies marking the space between one life stage and another – serve as essential social technologies for processing change across cultures. (Retraction of Tian et al. (2018) (2024). Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 126(2), 281.

However, in our modern secular society, many people find themselves without established frameworks for marking life transitions. This has led to what sociologist Robert Wuthnow calls “meaning-making in a secular age” – the emergence of personalized rituals that blend traditional elements with individual significance. Whether drawing from nature, creative expression, or community participation, these contemporary rituals serve the same fundamental human need to honour endings and sanctify beginnings.

The key to creating meaningful transition rituals lies not in their complexity but in their authenticity. As psychological research by Dr. Francesca Gino indicates, even simple ritualistic actions can provide significant emotional benefits when approached with intention and personal meaning. What matters most is not the specific form of the ritual, but rather the space it creates for acknowledging change, processing emotions, and stepping mindfully into new chapters of life. (Rituals enhance consumption
Kathleen D Vohs 1, Yajin Wang, Francesca Gino, Michael I Norton Psychol Sci
. 2013 Sep;24(9):1714-21. doi: 10.1177/0956797613478949.)

The general principles about the psychological and social importance of rituals are well-established in anthropological and psychological literature.

As we continue to navigate an increasingly complex and rapidly changing world, the importance of transition rituals only grows. They offer us tools for maintaining psychological well-being during change, connecting with others who witness our transformations, and marking the significant moments that shape our life stories. Whether practised alone or in a community, drawn from ancient traditions or newly created, rituals remain vital instruments for making meaning of our perpetual becoming.

Hit the pause button and regain your footing during a From Troubled to Triumphant Retreat. Imagine walking a peaceful stretch of the Camino de Santiago, where every step helps untangle the mental clutter or spending time with gentle Friesian horses who teach you the art of mindfulness. Whether you choose to make a change or are forced to, this retreat offers the perfect blend of peace, perspective, and playful exploration to help you rise from troubled to triumphant!

Remember, the most effective rituals are those that feel meaningful to YOU. You can combine elements from different ideas or create your own unique ritual. The key is to approach the process with intention, allowing yourself to fully experience the emotional and psychological aspects of your life transition.

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Imagine having a survival toolkit ready next time you’re hit by a life-shattering transition. My How to Survive a Life Quake 7-part online course isn’t just another hybrid course – with or without coaching – it’s a heartfelt made-with-love guide packed with tools to help you survive and even thrive through life’s toughest transitions, with resilience.

Author Bio: Dr Margaretha Montagu – described as a “game changer”, “gifted healer”, “guiding light” and “life-enriching author” – is an experienced medical doctor, a certified NLP practitioner, a medical hypnotherapist, an equine-assisted psychotherapist (EAGALAcertified) and a transformational retreat leader who guides her clients through life transitions – virtually, or with the assistance of her Friesian and Falabella horses, at their home in the southwest of France.

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