The RAS ( Reticular Activating System) Advantage: Leveraging Your Brain’s Filtering System for Career Success

The Reticular Activating System (RAS) can play a crucial role in advancing your career by enhancing focus, awareness, problem-solving and decision-making.

Ever since I was a young doctor working in an extremely busy city hospital at the start of my working life, I have been amazed by the power of the RAS. Though dedicated, I quickly became overwhelmed by my workload. I felt lost in the chaos of my demanding schedule and as I was constantly exhausted it soon felt as if my career had stagnated.

In the early morning hours of one of the darkest nights of my career, I decided to focus on becoming a top specialist in psychiatry. This clear goal activated my Reticular Activating System (RAS), sharpening my focus. Suddenly, I began noticing psychiatry conferences, specialised training programs, and research articles I had previously overlooked. My RAS filtered out irrelevant distractions, allowing me to concentrate on pertinent opportunities. As I immersed myself in my speciality, I made a couple of groundbreaking discoveries about stress management and gradually built a reputation as a stress management expert.

My RAS, by focusing my attention on key resources, transformed my stagnating career into a flourishing one, eventually guiding me to realise one of my wildest dreams: owning a little farm in the south of France where I host mindfulness and meditation retreats with my Friesian and Falabella horses.

As professionals, we today face a barrage of challenges, from information overload and constant distractions to maintaining focus in high-pressure environments. The incessant stream of emails, meetings, and multitasking demands can fragment our attention, leading to decreased productivity and burnout. By harnessing the power of our RAS, we can steer our careers more effectively, seize relevant opportunities, minimise distractions that impede progress and pave the way for career advancement amidst the modern workplace’s complexities.

Anyone can use their Reticular Activating System for Career Advancement by:

Setting Clear Goals: When you define clear career goals, the RAS helps by prioritising information and opportunities relevant to these goals. For instance, if you aim for a promotion, your RAS will filter and highlight information related to leadership training, networking opportunities, and job openings that align with this goal.

Concentrating on your Career Objectives: The RAS helps you maintain focus on tasks and projects that move you closer to these goals. This selective attention allows you to better manage your time and energy, leading to improved productivity. The RAS aids in directing your efforts toward areas most relevant to your career growth, ensuring that your skills align with your professional objectives.

Noticing Opportunities: The RAS increases your awareness of opportunities that align with your career aspirations. For example, if you’re seeking a new job, the RAS helps you notice job postings, industry trends, and professional connections that you might otherwise overlook.

Networking: In professional settings, the RAS helps you pick up on relevant conversations and potential connections. This can lead to valuable networking opportunities and partnerships that can advance your career.

Staying Motivated: When your career goals are clear and present in your mind, the RAS reinforces your motivation by keeping these goals at the forefront of your thoughts. This helps you stay committed and driven, even when faced with challenges.

Enhancing Your Problem-Solving Abilities: By focusing your attention on specific career-related challenges, the RAS helps you identify solutions more effectively. This improved problem-solving capability can lead to better outcomes and career advancement.

Identifying Learning Resources: When you’re focused on improving specific skills or acquiring new knowledge, the RAS helps you notice relevant resources, such as courses, workshops, and mentors, that align with your learning goals.

Practical Steps to Leverage the RAS for Career Advancement

I have listed below the steps that worked particularly well for me:

  1. Define Your Goals: Clearly formulate (remember SMART goals?) your career aspirations. This helps the RAS filter and prioritise relevant information and opportunities.
  2. Visualise Success: Regularly visualise your career achievements and progress. This keeps your goals prominent in your mind and reinforces your focus.
  3. Stay Informed: Actively seek information and resources related to your career goals. The RAS will help you notice and act upon these resources more effectively.
  4. Network Actively: Engage with professional communities and networks. The RAS will help you pick up on relevant connections and opportunities in these interactions.
  5. Reflect and Adjust: Regularly assess your progress and adjust your goals if needed. This ongoing reflection helps keep your RAS aligned with your evolving career objectives.
  6. Use Affirmations: I often tell myself, especially when my motivation is flagging: “I am laser-focused on my career goals, and my RAS helps me to identify and seize every relevant opportunity that comes my way,” or “My mind is attuned to important information that propels me forward in my career, filtering out distractions effortlessly,” or “My brain naturally filters out negativity and distractions, allowing me to concentrate on tasks that lead to my professional success.”
  7. Be Intensely Grateful for what you have achieved already. I keep a Gratitude Journal, doing this daily has made an enormous difference in my life.

How To Start Using Your RAS Right Now

To help you leverage the power of the RAS, I include 5 journaling prompts designed to enhance focus, recognise opportunities, minimise distractions, and nurture valuable connections, all of which contribute to career advancement.

  1. Identify Your Career Goals: Write down your top three career goals in detail. What specific skills, knowledge, and experiences do you need to achieve them? How will attaining these goals impact your professional and personal life?”
    This prompt helps you clearly define your career objectives, making it easier for your RAS to filter and focus on relevant information and opportunities.
  2. “Reflect on Opportunities: List all the opportunities, big or small, that you noticed this week that could help you advance in your career. How did you become aware of these opportunities, and what actions did you take or plan to take in response?”
  3. “Daily Focus Check-In: At the start of each day, journal about the key tasks and goals you need to focus on that day to move closer to your career objectives. Reflect at the end of the day on how well you stayed focused and what helped or hindered your concentration.”
  4. “Recognize and Filter Distractions: Write about the distractions you encounter in your work environment. How do they affect your productivity and focus? Brainstorm strategies to minimize these distractions and enhance your attention on career-related activities.”
  5. “Networking and Connections: Reflect on the people you interacted with this week who could support your career growth. How did these interactions come about? What steps can you take to nurture these professional relationships?”
    Focuses on the importance of networking and recognising valuable professional connections, enhancing the RAS’s role in identifying and building these relationships.

“The difference between great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively waiting to see where life takes them next. The difference between the two is the difference between living fully and just existing.” Michael E. Gerber

Manifestation: Separating Science from Superstition

In May 2019, I wrote this article: 5 Reasons Why I Do Not Believe in the Law of Attraction

I have not changed my mind. Those 5 reasons are as valid today as they were 5 years ago.

As someone who has always approached life with a healthy dose of scepticism, manifestation according to the law of attraction seems like wishful thinking at best.

So you may be wondering why is my flagship retreat called Manifest the Next Chapter in Your Life? And why is my free course called Manifest a Stress-free Life?

Manifestation and the law of attraction are as popular as ever and have surfaced again, with renewed vigour, to fill the next generation’s minds with the idea that they can magically shape the future with the power of their minds.

It’s the “magical” part that I find objectionable.

Manifestation (as well as the law of attraction) and the brain’s Reticular Activating System (RAS) are often linked in discussions about how our thoughts can influence our reality.

The Reticular Activating System (RAS) functions as a gatekeeper, regulating alertness, concentration, and consciousness. It acts as a filter for the roughly 11 million bits of information per second that bombard our senses, allowing only the most relevant information to pass through to our conscious mind.

The Function of the Reticular Activating System (RAS)

  • Alertness and Wakefulness: The RAS keeps you awake and alert and enables you to pay attention. It also puts you to sleep. It modulates the brain’s level of alertness, transitioning between all levels between fast asleep and wide awake.
  • Attention Regulation: The RAS filters the vast amounts of sensory information that the brain receives, allowing only the most relevant information to reach conscious awareness. This selective filtering process helps to focus attention on important stimuli while ignoring background noise. For example, the RAS helps you concentrate on reading a book in a noisy café by filtering out irrelevant sounds.
  • Sensory Processing: The RAS plays a role in sensory processing by prioritising which sensory inputs are considered important based on context and past experiences. It enhances the brain’s responsiveness to significant stimuli, such as hearing your name in a crowded room (a phenomenon known as the cocktail party effect).
  • Motivation and Objective-Directed Behavior: The RAS helps us to focus our attention on tasks that are deemed important to achieve our goals. By filtering out distractions and highlighting goal-relevant stimuli, the RAS facilitates the pursuit of objectives.
  • Emotional Regulation: The RAS interacts with the limbic system, which is involved in emotional responses. This interaction helps to regulate emotional reactions to stimuli, maintaining a balance between emotional and cognitive processing.

Does that explain how Manifestation and the Law of Attraction work?

Er…no. The Reticular Activating System does not magically empower us to manifest our heart’s desires.

Although the Reticular Activating System filters out unnecessary data and highlights what we focus on or deem important, assuming and asserting that the RAS can be harnessed to manifest our objectives, would be nothing more than the creation, however seductive, of another neuromyth.

This is just another SANE (Seductive Allure of Neuroscience Explanation.)

“…When you use brain-based mechanisms or neuroscience terminology to explain ideas, it gives those ideas an instant sense of credibility and scientific legitimacy, making them irresistible by appealing to authority and the perceived objectivity of scientific understanding, even if the claims being made aren’t actually true.” – Dr Sarah McKay

Manifestation involves setting intentions by clearly defining what you want, visualising the desired outcome vividly and in detail, adding intense emotion, trusting that it will happen and taking steps that align with the desired outcome.

The RAS can facilitate the process by filtering the vast amounts of information you receive, highlighting what is relevant to your goals and helping you notice and act on opportunities that align with your intentions.

No magic involved. None whatsoever.

Lia’s RAS (Reticular Activating System) Quest

Lia’s experience vividly illustrates the interplay between manifestation and the Reticular Activating System (RAS). After deciding she wanted to become a successful author, Lia diligently set her intentions, visualising herself signing books and choosing a powerful affirmation: “I have absolute confidence in my ability to be a successful author.” She knows she doesn’t need to believe it right away for her Reticular Activating System (RAS) to start making it a reality. This consistent focus did indeed activate her RAS, which began filtering her environment to highlight relevant opportunities. She started noticing writing workshops, networking events, and online resources that she previously overlooked. Moreover, Lia’s self-belief sustained her motivation, prompting her to seize these opportunities and take concrete steps towards her dream. Consequently, what seemed like serendipitous encounters and timely resources were, in fact, the result of her RAS aligning her perception and actions with her aspirations, effectively empowering her to make her dream a reality.

It’s important to distinguish the practical, neuroscientific role of the RAS from the more mystical or supernatural interpretations of manifestation. The RAS does not “magically” make things happen; instead, it plays a crucial role in helping us realise our objectives by enhancing our focus, increasing our awareness, and filtering relevant information.

No Need for Magic: Manifestation is Scientifically Supported

Manifestation is often misunderstood as a mystical or magical process. In reality, manifestation, supported by the RAS, is grounded in practical, positive and behavioural psychological principles.

That is why my flagship retreat is called Manifest Your Next Chapter and my free e-course is called Manifest a Stress-free Life.

Here’s how manifestation (stripped from any mystical or magical influence) works:

1. Psychological Foundations

Manifestation leverages well-established concepts from psychology. The power of positive thinking, for instance, is a key component. Studies show that maintaining a positive outlook can improve mental health, increase resilience, and enhance problem-solving skills.

2. Goal Setting and Clarity

Setting clear intentions and goals is a fundamental aspect of manifestation. This isn’t magical; it’s strategic. Defining what you want with precision helps you create a roadmap for achieving it. Clear goals provide direction and motivation, making it easier to develop actionable plans and measure progress.

3. Visualisation and Mental Rehearsal

Visualisation is a technique used by athletes, performers, and successful individuals across various fields. By vividly imagining your desired outcome, you train your brain to recognise and pursue those goals. This mental rehearsal helps to build confidence, reduce anxiety, and improve performance. It’s a practice backed by neuroscience, not sorcery.

4. Affirmations

Affirmations are positive statements that reinforce your intentions and self-belief. Repeating affirmations helps to rewire your brain, replacing negative thought patterns with empowering ones. This shift in mindset can boost self-esteem, reduce stress, and increase your likelihood of taking constructive actions towards your goals. It’s about cognitive restructuring, not mystical enchantment.

5. Emotional Alignment

Emotional alignment means ensuring your feelings support your goals. When you are emotionally invested in your aspirations, you are more motivated to pursue them. Positive emotions like joy, excitement, and gratitude enhance your energy levels and perseverance. This alignment fuels persistence and resilience, critical for overcoming obstacles.

6. Taking Inspired Action

Manifestation emphasizes the importance of taking inspired action. Success requires effort, planning, and consistent steps towards your goals. By acting on opportunities and following through on your intentions, you move closer to realizing your dreams. This proactive approach is a hallmark of successful individuals and has nothing to do with supernatural intervention.

7. Gratitude and Positive Reinforcement

Practising gratitude shifts your focus from what’s lacking to what you already have. This positive reinforcement helps to maintain a high level of motivation and commitment. Gratitude is known to improve psychological well-being, foster social connections, and enhance overall happiness, which supports sustained effort towards your goals.

8. Resilience and Adaptability

By believing in your ability to achieve your desires, you develop a stronger will to overcome setbacks. This growth mindset, popularised by psychologist Carol Dweck, is crucial for long-term success and personal development.

9. Letting Go

Letting go means releasing attachment to the outcome and trusting the process. This involves:

  • Detachment: Not obsessing over how and when your desires will manifest.
  • Trust in Timing: Believing that everything will unfold in the right time and way.
  • Release Control: Letting go of the need to control every aspect of the manifestation process.


Manifestation, stripped of any mystical connotations, is a practical and scientifically supported approach to achieving personal and professional goals. It involves setting clear intentions, visualising success, maintaining positive beliefs, and taking actionable steps. By harnessing the power of your mind and adjusting your behaviour, you can shape your reality in tangible ways—no magic required.

Rest: The Essential (but Often Missing) Ingredient in Your Self-Care Recipe

Ever wonder why you feel more irritable and less productive despite working harder?

On the point of collapsing from exhaustion, I realised something crucial: my relentless pursuit of success was costing me my health. I discovered that rest, quality as well as quantity, is not merely the absence of activity; it is a vital component of self-care that is necessary to maintain physical and mental health. My Story. This article explores why incorporating rest into your routine is essential to avoid burnout and living a balanced life.

Rest could be the game-changer you need for a healthier, happier life.

The Benefits of Getting Adequate (Quantity as well as Quality) Rest

1. Physical Health Benefits

During rest, particularly sleep, the body undergoes essential maintenance processes. For example, the immune system reboots during sleep, enhancing the body’s ability to fight off infections. Chronic sleep deprivation has been linked to numerous health problems, including obesity, diabetes, cardiovascular diseases, and weakened immune function. Adequate rest and sleep are vital for maintaining physical health and preventing chronic illnesses.

2. Mental Health and Cognitive Function

Rest significantly impacts mental health and cognitive function. Sleep is a critical period for the brain to process and consolidate memories, and clear out toxins that accumulate during waking hours. Lack of rest can impair cognitive functions such as focus, creativity, decision-making, and problem-solving skills. Chronic sleep deprivation is also associated with mood disorders like depression and anxiety. By prioritising rest, we can improve our mental clarity, emotional stability, and overall cognitive performance.

3. Emotional Well-Being

Rest periods, whether through sleep, relaxation techniques, or leisure activities, allow the brain to reset and manage stress more effectively. When the body and mind are well-rested, we are better equipped to handle daily stressors and emotional challenges. Rest also promotes a positive outlook, enhances mood, and increases resilience.

4. Enhanced Productivity and Creativity

Research shows that regular rest can enhance productivity and creativity. Overworking can lead to diminishing returns, where the quality of work decreases due to fatigue and eventually results in burnout. Incorporating rest breaks into the day can refresh the mind, leading to better focus, innovative thinking, and more efficient problem-solving. Creative insights often occur during periods of relaxation when the mind is free to wander and make new connections.

5. Balanced Lifestyle and Longevity

Chronic stress and lack of rest can accelerate the ageing process and reduce life expectancy. By integrating rest into our daily routines, we can achieve a better work-life balance, leading to a more fulfilling and sustainable lifestyle.

6. Improved Relationships

When we are well-rested, we are more patient, empathetic, and emotionally available to our loved ones. Fatigue and stress from lack of rest can lead to irritability and conflict, negatively affecting relationships. By incorporating rest into our self-care routines, we can enhance our emotional well-being and improve our communication skills.

7. Hormonal Balance

Adequate rest is crucial for maintaining hormonal balance in the body. During sleep, the endocrine system regulates the release of various hormones, including those related to growth, stress, and appetite. Lack of sleep can disrupt this balance, leading to health issues such as weight gain, insulin resistance, and an increased risk of metabolic disorders.

8. Better Physical Performance

For those who engage in physical activities or sports, rest is a crucial component of training. Adequate rest allows muscles to recover and grow stronger, reducing the risk of injuries and enhancing overall physical performance. Both professional athletes and fitness enthusiasts recognise the importance of rest days and proper sleep in their training regimens.

9. Prevention of Burnout

In today’s high-pressure environments, burnout has become a common issue. Burnout is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by prolonged stress and overwork. Incorporating regular rest into self-care routines is a powerful tool for preventing burnout. Rest allows us to recharge, gain perspective, and maintain a sustainable pace in our personal and professional lives. By prioritising rest, we can avoid the debilitating effects of burnout and maintain a well-balanced lifestyle.

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Rest is a fundamental component of self-care. It is essential for physical health, mental clarity, emotional well-being, productivity, creativity and preventing burnout. By recognising the importance of rest and incorporating it into our daily routines, we can dramatically enhance our overall quality of life.

“Getting enough rest is not self-indulgence; it is a vital necessity.” – Dr M Montagu

Mindfulness: A Solution for Imposter Syndrome

From Self-Doubt to Self-Confidence

Imagine standing on the precipice of a significant career milestone, your achievements lauded by your peers, when suddenly, an insidious voice whispers, “You’re a fraud.” This is the haunting reality of many people with imposter syndrome, a phenomenon affecting countless high-achievers. But what if there was a way to silence that critical inner voice, to replace self-doubt with self-assurance?

The Turning Point

Elena sat in her car, staring at the sprawling ranch. She had been living in a whirlwind, grappling with the fallout of a sudden job loss and the crushing weight of imposter syndrome. Her therapist had suggested equine-assisted mindfulness therapy, and though sceptical, Elena was desperate for a change, so she booked a session.

She stepped out and was greeted by Sarah, the ranch owner. “Welcome, Elena. Come and meet the horses,” Sarah said, as they walked towards a chestnut mare named Bella. Elena reached out to touch Bella’s velvety nose. For the first time in weeks, Elena felt her mind quieting.

Over the next few sessions, Elena learned to lead Bella through the paddock. Each step required her full attention. When her mind wandered to thoughts of inadequacy or fear, Bella sensed her distraction and would stop, waiting for Elena to return to the present moment.

One afternoon, as Elena groomed Bella, she confided in Sarah about her job loss and the overwhelming sense of being an imposter. “I feel like I never truly earned my achievements. Like I’ve been pretending all along.”

Sarah listened patiently. “You have gained Bella’s trust. Bella trusts you because you always treat her with respect. You’ve earned that trust step-by-step. If Bella is willing to trust you to keep her safe from predators, you can also trust yourself. Bella doesn’t think you are a fraud.”

As weeks passed, Elena noticed a shift. The mindfulness practices she learned with Bella extended beyond the ranch. When anxiety flared, she used the breathing techniques she learned and visualised herself leading Bella, grounding herself in the present moment. She no longer saw herself as an imposter.

Mindfulness can be a powerful tool that can transform our inner narrative and empower us to embrace our true worth.

Here’s how mindfulness can help us overcome imposter syndrome:

  • Identification of Negative Thought Patterns: Mindfulness encourages us to observe our thoughts and feelings without judgment. This awareness can help identify and acknowledge negative thought patterns associated with imposter syndrome, such as self-doubt and fear of failure.
  • Recognition of Triggers: By practising mindfulness, we can become more attuned to the specific situations or interactions that trigger our imposter feelings, allowing us to implement more targeted coping strategies.
  • Present Moment Focus: Mindfulness emphasises staying present, which can reduce the anxiety and stress that often accompany imposter syndrome. By focusing on the here and now, we can prevent our minds from wandering to past failures or future worries.
  • Stress Management Techniques: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, deep breathing, and progressive muscle relaxation can help lower overall stress levels, making it easier to manage the emotional responses tied to imposter syndrome.
  • Non-Judgmental Attitude: Mindfulness teaches us to observe our experiences without harsh judgment. This approach can foster self-compassion, helping us to be kinder to ourselves when we make mistakes.
  • Acceptance of Imperfection: Mindfulness promotes the acceptance of ourselves, including our imperfections. This acceptance can counter the perfectionist tendencies often seen in those with imposter syndrome.
  • Balanced Response to Emotions: By practising mindfulness, we can learn to respond to our emotions in a balanced way rather than reacting impulsively. This skill is crucial in managing the intense feelings of inadequacy that imposter syndrome can provoke.
  • Detachment from Negative Thoughts: Mindfulness helps us see our thoughts as temporary and separate from their identity, reducing the impact of negative thoughts related to imposter syndrome.
  • Recognition of Achievements: Through mindfulness, we can develop a more balanced view of our accomplishments and abilities, helping to counteract the internal narrative of not being good enough.
  • Positive Affirmation: Regular mindfulness practice can reinforce positive self-affirmations and realistic self-assessments, building a stronger, more resilient sense of self.

“Now when I receive recognition for my acting, I feel incredibly uncomfortable. I tend to turn in on myself. I feel like an imposter. Any moment, someone’s going to find out I’m a total fraud, and that I don’t deserve any of what I’ve achieved.” Emma Watson

Mindfulness and Horses

Horses are exceptional teachers of mindfulness due to their natural sensitivity. By observing and interacting with horses, we can learn to be fully present and to let go of past regrets and future anxieties.

That is why equine-facilitated mindfulness sessions are part of my Manifest Your Next Chapter retreats here in southwest France. Even my online courses, ex. my course about Discovering Your Life Purpose, are enriched by stories and pictures of horses.

When working with horses, we must be calm and centred, as they mirror our emotions and respond to our energy. This requires us to become aware of our own mental and emotional states, fostering self-awareness and emotional regulation. Simple activities like grooming, leading, or just being near a horse demand our full attention and help ground us in the moment.

Horses also provide immediate feedback through their reactions, helping us recognize when we are distracted or tense. This feedback loop helps us to adjust our mindset and return to a state of calmness. The non-judgmental and accepting nature of horses further reinforces the practice of mindfulness, teaching us to approach ourselves with the same compassion and acceptance.

Are you struggling with imposter syndrome, feeling like you’re never quite enough? It’s time to break free from self-doubt and realise your full potential. Join us for a Manifest Your Next Chapter retreat or enrol in one of my online courses/retreats, where you will learn to get to grips with your imposter syndrome and get back in control using the power of mindfulness and the unique connection with horses.

Mindfulness for Introverts: Finding Calm in a Chaotic World

How Introverts Can Benefit from Adjusted Mindfulness Techniques

If you are an introvert, you might find it difficult to master mindfulness.

Mindfulness is a powerful practice that can offer significant benefits, but introverts may face unique difficulties when trying to learn and incorporate mindfulness into their lives.

For introverts, mastering mindfulness can feel like taming a room full of hyperactive puppies—both challenging and unexpectedly rewarding.

Meet Dave, an introvert with the stress management skills of a hedgehog at a balloon party. When he lost his job, his mind became a whirlwind of worries, so he decided to give mindfulness a try. His therapist, a well-meaning optimist named Dr. Bright, insisted it would help with his anxiety.

Dave understood that mindfulness can be especially beneficial for introverts because:

  • Mindfulness fosters compassion towards oneself and others. Introverts can benefit from increased self-compassion, which reduces self-criticism and promotes a kinder, more understanding approach to themselves and others.
  • By quieting the mind and reducing mental clutter, mindfulness can spark creativity and innovation. Introverts, who often have rich inner worlds, can tap into their creative potential more readily through regular mindfulness practice.
  • Stress, which introverts often internalise, can disrupt sleep patterns. Mindfulness practices can improve sleep quality by calming the mind and preparing the body for restful sleep, helping introverts sleep better.
  • Mindfulness teaches introverts how to observe their emotions without becoming overwhelmed by them. This skill is invaluable for introverts who tend to feel emotions deeply. It allows them to navigate their emotional landscape more effectively and respond to situations with greater composure.
  • Mindfulness builds emotional resilience. Introverts, who may feel overwhelmed by external pressures, can develop a stronger, more resilient mindset, enabling them to bounce back from setbacks with greater ease.

Dave wasn’t convinced, though, that he would be able to learn how to practise mindfulness.

Right from the start, Dave had problems. He signed up for a mindfulness class at the community centre. On the first day, the instructor announced they would start with the 5 senses exercise. “Close your eyes and focus on what you hear,” the instructor said. Dave tried to comply but was quickly overwhelmed by the hum of fluorescent lights, a dog barking madly just outside the centre and a nerve-racking siren wailing in the distance.

Introverts are often more sensitive to their surroundings and can easily become overwhelmed by sensory input. Traditional mindfulness exercises, such as the 5 senses exercise, require focusing on multiple sensory stimuli, which can exacerbate this overload. Instead of achieving a state of calm, introverts may feel more stressed when engaging in these exercises, making it difficult for them to benefit from the practice.

Next, Dave’s heart started beating like a drum, ready to jump out of his chest. He felt himself beginning to hyperventilate. Dave HATED group activities.

Many mindfulness programs and classes are conducted in group settings, which can be intimidating for introverts. The social aspect of attending classes, participating in group discussions, and sharing experiences can be overwhelming. Social interactions can deter introverts from fully engaging in mindfulness practices or even prevent them from attending mindfulness classes altogether. Introverts require alone time to recharge and process their thoughts.

The well-meaning mindfulness instructor’s voice penetrated Dave’s brain fog. “Now let’s talk about how this exercise made us feel. Who would like to go first?” she asked, and the next moment, she locked eyes with Dave. Dave felt his lunch promptly making its way up his throat.

Introverts may struggle with openly expressing their thoughts and emotions, which is often encouraged in mindfulness practices. This can make exercises that involve sharing feelings or talking about experiences particularly challenging. The pressure to express themselves can create additional stress, making it difficult for introverts to relax and fully immerse themselves in the practice.

Dave had just about had enough and desperately yearned to escape. He was exhausted. He struggled to focus on the present moment and felt more and more frustrated.

Mindfulness was just not working for him.

Have you ever felt like Dave?

If you’re an introvert looking for an approach to mindfulness that honours your unique needs, consider joining us in the sunblessed southwest of France, for a “Manifest Your Next Chapter” retreat or maybe sign up for one of my online retreats/courses. These retreats are designed to provide a supportive environment where introverts can practice mindfulness in a way that truly resonates with them. Come and discover that mindfulness CAN work for you, in your own time and at your own pace, especially if you are struggling through a life change, challenge or crisis, and find your own path to inner peace.

An Introvert’s Guide to Coping with a Major Life Crisis


Picture this: a serene lakeside cabin, nestled deep in the woods, where the only sounds are the whisper of the wind through the trees and the gentle ripple of water over cobbles. For an introvert, this is paradise. Now, imagine throwing a grenade into the midst of all this tranquillity—welcome to the life of an introvert in the midst of a major life crisis.

Are you struggling to cope with a Life Crisis?

Maybe you are an introvert.

How do you recognise an introvert at any sort of social gathering: Christmas dinner, a friend’s birthday lunch, an office cocktails party, or a charity event? They’re the ones secretly praying for the fire alarm to go off so they can make a swift exit without all the awkward goodbyes.

According to Susan Cain, ‘Introverts may have strong social skills and enjoy parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were home in their pyjamas. They prefer to devote their social energies to close friends, colleagues, and family. They listen more than they talk, think before they speak, and often feel as if they express themselves better in writing than in conversation. They tend to dislike conflict. Many have a horror of small talk, but enjoy deep discussions.’

Take Jane, for example. Jane is a classic introvert: bookish, introspective, and capable of binge-watching entire seasons of “Nature’s Greatest Migrations” without once wondering what’s happening on Instagram. One day, Jane’s world was turned upside down when her husband announced he was leaving her for his CrossFit instructor. Suddenly, Jane’s peaceful existence was shattered.

In a desperate attempt to cope, Jane decided to attend a divorce support group. This, of course, went about as well as you’d expect. Upon entering the room, she was immediately surrounded by well-meaning strangers eager to hear her story and share their own. Jane spent the entire session clutching her coffee cup like a life raft, nodding politely, her mind a million miles away. The thought of sharing her “divorce story” with strangers was as uplifting as getting a root canal. Eventually, she escaped to the bathroom, where she spent the rest of the meeting scrolling through cat memes.

I am weary of labels, like introvert and extrovert, preferring to avoid labelling people as one to the exclusion of the other. I would rather see it as a spectrum with a small number of « pure » introverts and extroverts at both extremes of the spectrum, most of us having characteristics of both and behaving more like extroverts or introverts depending on the situation we find ourselves in.

Most people are not exclusively introverted or extroverted. “Ninety per cent of people are somewhere in the middle,” says Jens Asendorpf, a personality researcher at Humboldt University of Berlin. People who tend to be extroverted also like to keep to themselves from time to time. “And since everyone needs social contact, introverts also seek interaction with others—just less so,” Asendorpf adds.

In other words, the vast majority of people are probably ambiverts.

Having said that, it cannot be denied that people more on the introverted side of the spectrum can find it difficult to cope with major life events like divorce, changing careers, retirement, redundancy, loss of a loved one etc.

Difficulties coping with life Challenges Specific to Introverts:

1. Feeling Overwhelmed by Social interactions

Introverts typically find social interactions draining. During a major life crisis, such as a divorce, the frequency and intensity of social interactions can skyrocket. This includes meetings with lawyers, court appearances, discussions with financial advisors, and support groups. Even well-intentioned friends and family can become overwhelmed by their constant check-ins and advice.

An introvert might feel emotionally exhausted after a single meeting with their lawyer, yet be expected to attend multiple such meetings in a week. The added pressure of explaining their situation repeatedly to different people can be extremely taxing for introverts who thrive on solitude and quiet reflection.

2. Not getting the Opportunity to recharge their Batteries

Introverts require time alone to recharge their batteries, process their thoughts and review various courses of action. A major life crisis often disrupts this solitude, leaving little room for introspection and personal space. The constant demands on their time and attention can lead to a sense of being perpetually overwhelmed.

During a serious life crisis, an introvert might find it nearly impossible to find a quiet moment to themselves. They might long for an evening alone with a book, but instead, they’re inundated with phone calls, emails, and visits from concerned loved ones.

3. Experiencing difficulties when they try to share their Feelings

Introverts sometimes struggle to articulate their feelings, concerns and needs, especially in stressful situations. This can hinder their ability to seek and accept help, leading to feelings of isolation, fear and frustration.

An introvert going through a breakup might find it difficult to express their emotions to friends or therapists. They might prefer writing their thoughts down but feel pressured to talk about their feelings, which can be uncomfortable and unproductive.

4. Finding Interacting with others utterly Exhausting

High-stress environments and constant social interaction can rapidly deplete an introvert’s energy. This energy drain and exhaustion can impair their ability to think clearly and make decisions, further complicating the crisis management process.

An introvert dealing with job loss might be required to attend numerous networking events and interviews. The sheer number of interactions can leave them feeling too drained to perform well or think strategically about their next steps.

Because of this, introverts might find it challenging to reach out for support, whether from friends, family, or professionals. Their preference for self-reliance and introspection can lead them to try to manage everything on their own, which can isolate them to a pathological extent.

5. Introverts often prefer to avoid Confrontation

Introverts may have a natural inclination to retreat inward, internalise their emotions and avoid confronting their problems head-on. This can delay important decisions and prolong the period of crisis, making it harder to move forward.

An introvert facing financial difficulties might delay reaching out to a financial advisor because they dread the interaction. This avoidance can lead to worsening financial problems that could have been mitigated with timely intervention.

6. Struggling to cope with Sensory Overload:

Introverts are often more sensitive to their environments and can become overwhelmed by excessive stimuli. During a crisis, the increased noise, activity, and emotional intensity can lead to sensory overload, making it harder to cope effectively.

An introvert who has to move out of their home during a separation might struggle with the chaotic process of packing, moving, and settling into a new place. The constant activity and change can be mentally and physically exhausting.

“Introverts live in two worlds: We visit the world of people, but solitude and the inner world will always be our home.” Jenn Granneman

Are You an Introvert struggling to cope with a Life Crisis?

If you’re an introvert facing a major life challenge, it’s essential to find a balance between honouring your yearning for solitude and seeking the support you need. My “Manifest Your Next Chapter” retreats in the southwest of France are designed specifically for people like you, especially my Solo Retreats. In a serene and supportive environment, you’ll learn how to sail through life’s storms by spending time in nature and walking the Camino de Santiago de Compostela. You’re not alone. A “Manifest Your Next Chapter” retreat in the serene southwest of France is exactly what you need. Our retreats offer a safe, nurturing environment where you can process your emotions, recharge your energy, and find your path forward. It’s time to turn your trials into triumphs and write the next chapter of your life with courage and confidence.

Send me a quick email if you want to find out more and if you want to, you can book your retreat today.


Further reading: Solo Retreats and Solo, Slow Travel


How to order a Hamburger in France


Every Tuesday evening, my Manifest Your Next Chapter retreat guests and I go to a local bistro to support the still-flagging local economy, post-Covid. Most of the options on the menu include duck, in some form or another, but the most popular choice invariably is a HAMBURGER, done à point.

I have often heard, “How do I order a Hamburger in France?”

Really? A hamburger?

You may be surprised to hear that the humble hamburger is so popular in Gascony – a region renowned for its stunning Atlantic coastline, charming villages, and delectable Cuisine Gascon – but this part of France has always been a melting pot of culinary influences. The region has always embraced a variety of flavours and ingredients. The hamburger, adaptable and versatile, fits perfectly into this environment.

In recent years, there has been a global trend towards gourmet burgers, and culinary innovative Gascony is no exception. High-quality ingredients, artisanal buns, and creative toppings have elevated the humble hamburger to gourmet status. Local chefs have embraced this trend, offering gourmet burgers that appeal to both locals and visitors. These burgers often feature regional specialities such as truffle mayonnaise, caramelized onions, and even foie gras.

Our brilliant chefs have even invented a Burger Gascon, which consists of a magret de canard with a slab of foie gras on top smothered in a sweet fig sauce (confit de figue.)

So how do I advise my guests to order a hamburger here in southwest France?

Firstly, I explain they need to drop the “H,” and ask for a AMBURGER. It usually comes with frites (fries) but you may want to make sure, and add “avec frites.” Next, you will be asked how you want the meat done. Do not make the mistake of thinking that all hamburger patties will, by definition, be well-cooked. No so. Unless you specifically specify “bien cuit”, or even “très bien cuit, s’il vous plait”, you end up with a nearly raw, definitely bleeding hamburger, done “saignant.” Opt for “à point,” if you want something in between.

Next, you choose ze cheese and ze sauce. A slice of local cheese is always a good choice, or maybe a mushroom sauce. Cèpes ? Yes, great, get yourself some of our favourite mushrooms in your sauce. Raw egg? Uhm, no, rather not. Their very best made-fresh-today mayonnaise? Bon d’accord, you might well want to try that.

The good news is that many of the younger generation speak quite a bit of English these days, so as long as you keep your questions simple and speak slowly, how to order a hamburger in France should be fairly straightforward. Or you can use an app to translate the menu for you, and even to communicate directly with your friendly – this is the Gascony, not Paris, we mostly welcome tourists here – rugby-playing waiter.

One thing that hasn’t changed though, is the fact that Gascons tend to shun soft drinks, and prefer, in addition to the tap water/eau plate already on the table, a bottle of wine, a Cotes de Gascogne – a dry, white or a fruity rosé or even a feisty Madiran. The easiest is to opt for a “quart” (250ml) or a “demi” (500ml) carafe of vin de table/du pays.

When you’re ready to leave, ask for the bill by saying, “L’addition, s’il vous plaît.” You may pay at the table or be shown your table number and be directed towards the counter. Tipping is not obligatory in France, but it is appreciated. Leaving a few euros or rounding up the bill is a much appreciated gesture. At our local bistros, prices vary from 11-15 euros, including toppings and frites. Adding foie gras will double the price. Most of our local bistros make their own patties with high-quality mince meat, bought from local farmers, that tastes quite different from those of the fast-food outlets. Most restaurants around here now specify exactly where they buy their meat.

The dining culture in Gascony is laid-back and casual, especially during the long, warm summers. Hamburgers blend seamlessly with the region’s rich culinary traditions and vibrant lifestyle. Whether it’s the influence of tourism, the allure of gourmet ingredients, or the casual dining culture, burgers have become a beloved part of the southwest of France’s food scene. So, next time you find yourself in this picturesque region, don’t be surprised to find a delicious, locally-inspired hamburger on the menu. Now you know how to order a hamburger in France, so all that’s left is to wish you Bon appétit!





Creating Financial Independence during a Life Transition

Strategies for Women Rebuilding Their Lives During Major Life Events

I felt a bit of a fraud when I started writing this article. Who am I to give others financial advice? I was going through a major life upheaval though, and I needed to get my finances sorted, or at least in better order. So I did a lot of research and I’m sharing what I found useful with you in this article, hoping it will be useful to you too.

Imagine waking up one day to find that your financial stability has been destroyed overnight. Whether due to a divorce, the sudden loss of a partner, or an unexpected job loss, the journey to reclaim your financial independence can be both challenging and empowering. This is the story of Susan, who faced such a transition and emerged stronger, using practical strategies to gradually create a stable financial future for herself.

Susan, a 52-year-old marketing executive, had dedicated her life to her career and her family. After 25 years of marriage, her world was turned upside down when she and her husband decided to get divorced. Suddenly, Susan found herself single and solely responsible for her financial future. She felt completely overwhelmed by mortgage payments, college tuition for her two children, and looming everyday expenses.

Instead of succumbing to fear, Susan chose to take control. She sought advice from a financial planner, who helped her develop a clear plan. Susan began by reassessing her budget, cutting unnecessary expenses, and prioritising her financial goals. She took a course on financial literacy, empowering herself with the knowledge to make informed decisions. Within a year, Susan had not only stabilised her finances but also started saving for her retirement.

Susan’s story demonstrates that with determination and a few well-chosen strategies, rebuilding financial independence is achievable at any stage of life.

When I first read Susan’s story, I laughed, it sounded as unrealistic as a fairy tale! Susan and I clearly had NOTHING in common. Each time I decided to organise my finances, I came down with a debilitating attack of procrastinitis.

What got me out of the seemingly inescapable swamp, was setting an hour aside each day to try to get my financial ducks in a row, and gradually the situation went from drastic and desperate to…slightly better.

My 7 steps to a more prosperous financial future:

1. Assessing My Financial Situation:

Had to start here, however depressing it was. I needed a clear picture of my current financial status, so I listed all my assets (very short list), liabilities (long, scary list), income (even shorter list), and expenses (endless list). This helped me identify the areas that needed immediate attention.

2. Creating a Realistic Budget:

I had to force myself to do this, because, apparently, «A budget is a powerful tool for managing your finances.» So I tracked my spending and prioritised essential expenses like housing, utilities, groceries etc, and identified areas where I could cut back. The app YNAB (You Need a Budget) simplified this process and made it (slightly) more bearable.

3. Exploring Income Opportunities:

One thing I realised is that identifying a variety of income streams is essential. You know the saying, «Don’t put all your eggs in the same basket.» In the current financial climate, I think this should be an ongoing exercise, for all of us. It could involve consulting through platforms like Upwork and Fiverr, starting a small business selling products online via Etsy and Shopify, or doing part-time work offering local services. Teaching online courses, writing e-books, and creating digital content can also generate revenue, as can renting out property, equipment, or vehicles. Investing in education and acquiring high-demand skills can enhance one’s earning potential, while passive income from dividends, royalties, and affiliate marketing offers long-term financial benefits.

4. Investing in My Financial Education:

I agree that knowledge is power, especially when it comes to managing money, so I invested time in courses on personal finance, I joined suitable Facebook groups, subcribed to e-mail lists, and followed reputable financial blogs. I discovered that investment options, retirement planning, and debt management can significantly impact one’s financial future.

5. Building an Emergency Fund:

Got to be kidding, I thought. I’m fully aware now that life is unpredictable, and I realise that having an emergency fund can provide a financial safety net. Starting small, my aim is to save three to six months’ worth of living expenses. Eventually.

6. Seeking Professional Advice:

As soon as you can afford it, I recommend doing this. A financial advisor can provide personalised guidance tailored to one’s situation, help develop a long-term financial plan, manage investments, and advise on retirement funding options.

7. Cultivating an Empowering Mindset:

I am convinced that by fostering an informed and proactive mindset, you can empower yourself to make sound financial decisions and achieve long-term financial stability and independence. During my Manifest Your Next Chapter retreats, I discuss mindset in depth, as I feel that without the right mindset, any attempt to improve your financial situation is doomed before you even start.

Defining, or redefining, your Life Purpose during a life transition is also a game changer. Knowing your purpose at this time of your life keeps you motivated to improve your financial situation, as it is supported by your values and principles.

“Your economic security does not lie in your job; it lies in your own power to produce – to think, to learn, to create, to adapt. That’s true financial independence. It’s not having wealth; it’s having the power to produce wealth.” – Stephen Covey

It is never too late to take control of your financial future and plant the seeds for a prosperous, purposeful and independent life.

A New Definition of Success: Finding Fulfillment in Life Transitions

A woman who embodies a new definition of success

Did you know that nearly half of successful people reconsider their career paths after a major life event? In an age of transformation, discover how personal stories of triumph over adversity are reshaping our understanding of true achievement.

As you may know, I am in the process of redesigning my retreats, combining my variously themed 5-day retreats into one 7-day retreat focussing on life changes, challenges and transitions coaching, and incorporating the mindfulness meditation with my horses, walking a section of the Camino de Santiago and explorative and experiential writing and reading.

Redefining Success as I Create a Transformational Retreat

Obviously, I want it to be a transformational experience for my guests, whether it is their first, second or twentieth retreat. This has made me think about success, in general, and more specifically about how I will know whether my new retreats are successful in transforming my guests’ lives.

Success has long been synonymous with wealth, status, and power. Yet, in an evolving world marked by shifting values and unforeseen challenges, I think it is time that the definition of success is re-examined. This redefinition is often initiated by life transitions, changes or challenges that force people to reassess their priorities.

The reason my new retreat is focused on assisting my guests through life changes, is not only because I have lived through several of these myself, more than once, but also because the majority of my guests attend retreats here while going through life transitions themselves.

I suspect it’s the call of the Camino that draws them here.

Linda the Corporate Lawyer’s Story

Consider the journey of my guest Linda, a corporate lawyer who spent a decade climbing the ladder in a prestigious firm. Her high-paying job and impressive title painted a picture of success. However, the long hours and constant pressure left her feeling unfulfilled. Linda’s turning point came when she faced a severe health scare, prompting a reassessment of her life’s direction. She volunteered at a local legal aid clinic, where helping individuals navigate their legal troubles brought her a deep sense of purpose. The gratitude of those she helped contrasted sharply with the impersonal nature of corporate law. After her retreat, Linda left her lucrative job to work full-time in public interest law. Her new career path, while not as financially rewarding, brought her profound satisfaction and a sense of accomplishment. Linda’s story suggests that success is not merely about external achievements but about finding work that resonates with one’s values, especially when life’s challenges push us to reconsider our paths.

Sylvie, the Succesful Entrepreneur’s Story

“Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful,” said Albert Schweitzer. This quote mirrors the experience of Sylvie, an entrepreneur who founded a tech startup in her twenties. Initially, Sylvie’s measure of success was revenue and market share. Her startup grew rapidly, but the relentless pursuit of growth soon led to burnout and seriously strained relationships. As her marriage started to disintegrate, Sylvie attended a retreat here and during the retreat decided to reassess her priorities. She began to focus on creating a work culture that valued mental well-being and personal growth. Sylvie’s company started offering flexible work hours, mental health support, and opportunities for employees to pursue their own dreams. This shift resulted not only in a happier, more productive team but also in sustainable business growth. Sylvie is now convinced that success lies in nurturing a fulfilling work environment.

Lila, the Committed High School Teacher’s Story

Lila’s story further illustrates this redefinition. As a high school teacher, she found joy in inspiring her students. Despite pressure from her partner to pursue higher-paying jobs, Lila remained committed to teaching. A significant life transition occurred when her mother fell ill, requiring Lila to balance caregiving with her professional responsibilities. This period of dual roles underscored the importance of her impact on young minds and the lasting influence she had on their lives. Exhausted from her caregiving duties, Lila attended a retreat here. She realised that she does not measure success in monetary terms but in the pride she felt in her students’ achievements and the positive changes she brought to their lives. Her story demonstrates that success can be found in dedication to one’s calling and the positive change one brings to others, particularly when life’s challenges demand a deeper commitment to one’s true calling.

A New Definition of Success

Reflecting on these stories, it became clear to me that success today is a multi-dimensional concept, deeply personal and often unquantifiable. It is about fulfilment, purpose, and the well-being of oneself and others. Ralph Waldo Emerson aptly stated, “To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.”

I will know that my retreats are successful if they assist my guests in redefining success, particularly during life transitions, changes or challenges, to embrace a holistic view that values happiness, impact, and personal growth over traditional metrics.

Stories like those of Linda, Sylvie, and Lila, prove that true success is a journey, not a destination, and it is as diverse as the people who pursue it.

And it’s back to the “retreat redesign” drawing board for me!

(Names changed and stories altered to protect my guests’ identity.)

Getting Motivated to Declutter During Life Transitions

Coping with Life Changes, Challenges and Transitions Series

Theresa stood in the middle of her living room, surrounded by piles of paperwork from years gone by, dusty stacks of old newspapers and magazines, bulging boxes of “fat” clothes and “thin” clothes, some never worn, and an eclectic collection of thoughtless gifts. After 20 years of living, or rather existing, in the same old house, a recent divorce had thrown her kicking-and-screaming, right into the middle of a debilitating life transition. She sneezed as she picked up a sticky photo album from a shelf, she realized it wasn’t just her failed marriage that she had to let go—it was the mountains of useless clutter that had silently accumulated over the years, and were now threatening to suffocate her.

I am no minimalist, but I have found that decluttering during a life transition, challenge of change, such as moving house, getting divorced, changing careers, losing someone you love or finding yourself with an empty nest, can be useful in more than one way. For one thing, life transitions often involve long waiting periods, and decluttering can give you something mood-lifting to do.

During a major life change decluttering may seem like an impossible task to set yourself, to motivate and inspire you, read through the benefits listed below.

The secret is to start small.


Decluttering during life transitions can:

(I have tried to order the benefits below according to their usefulness, starting with those that were useful to me. Everyone and every transition is different, you may find benefits at the bottom of this list at the top of yours!)

1. Reduce Stress: Clutter can make you feel anxious and overwhelmed, as a disorganised space often mirrors a chaotic mind.

2. Boost Mental Clarity: When your surroundings are free of unnecessary items, it’s easier to concentrate on the tasks at hand and make thoughtful decisions during a life transition.

3. Enhance Self-Awareness: Understanding why you’ve held onto certain items and recognizing what you value can provide insights into your personality, preferences, and priorities.

4. Facilitate a Fresh Start: Clearing clutter helps you physically and symbolically make space for new opportunities, relationships, and experiences, enabling you to move forward and make a fresh start.

5. Increase Productivity: A tidy environment can significantly boost your productivity. Without the distraction of clutter, you can work more efficiently, whether you’re setting up a new home office, starting a new project, or simplifying your daily routine.

6. Promote Better Sleep: By removing unnecessary items and creating a peaceful sleeping environment, you enhance your ability to rest and recharge, which is crucial during times of change.

7. Improve Physical Health: The act of sorting, cleaning, and organizing can be a form of physical activity. Additionally, reducing clutter can help minimize dust and allergens in your home, leading to a healthier living space.

8. Encourage Mindfulness: Deciding what to keep and what to discard, can be an excellent mindfulness exercise, as you concentrate on staying present in the moment and to not get lost in memories of the past or trapped by your fears for the future.

9. Save Time and Energy: A clutter-free home is easier to maintain and clean. By decluttering, you reduce the time and energy spent searching for items, cleaning around piles of stuff, and managing your space, allowing you to focus on more meaningful activities.

10. Letting go of items associated with past experiences can be emotionally liberating. Decluttering allows you to release the negative emotions tied to those items, paving the way for emotional healing and manifesting a new chapter in your life.

11. Create a Sense of Accomplishment: The process of decluttering, sorting, and organising can boost your confidence and motivate you to tackle other aspects of your life transition.

12. Enhance Creativity: Without the visual and mental distractions of clutter, your mind is free to explore new ideas and engage in creative thinking.

13. Increase Financial Stability: Selling unwanted items can generate extra income, and sometimes become a profitable side hustle or even main income. Additionally, being organised helps you avoid unnecessary purchases by knowing exactly what you have.

15. Cultivate Useful Habits: The practice of decluttering can lead to the development of better organisational habits. Maintaining a clutter-free space encourages regular tidying and mindful consumption, fostering long-term discipline and organization.

16. Strengthen Relationships: A tidy, ordered home can improve relationships with those who live with you. It reduces conflicts over misplaced items and creates a more harmonious living environment.

17. Promote Decision-Making Skills: Decluttering requires making decisions about what to keep and what to let go of. This practice can enhance your decision-making skills, making it easier to make other important choices during life transitions.

18. Make your living space is more visually appealing: Creating an environment that reflects your style and preferences can boost your mood and make your home a more enjoyable place to live.

19. Decluttering helps you reduce the physical and emotional baggage you carry. Whether it’s an unexpected move, a new job, ta break up or a redundancy, being organised makes the process smoother and less overwhelming.

20. Increases Overall Happiness: Controlling your physical environment can positively impact your emotional well-being, making you feel empowered and at peace.


With each item Theresa decided to discard, she felt a weight lift off her shoulders. The process wasn’t just about tidying up; it was about making space for new opportunities. In the midst of her life transition, getting rid of the clutter became a powerful act of reclaiming her life, her freedom, and her future.

Decluttering during life transitions is more than just tidying up; it’s a transformative process that can significantly impact your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. For Theresa, it was a journey of emotional release, mental clarity, and personal empowerment. By embracing the process of getting rid of clutter, you can not only create a more restful living space but also pave the way for a smoother, more positive transition into the next chapter of your life. Whether it’s enhancing creativity, supporting financial well-being, or preparing for future changes, the benefits of decluttering are profound, long-lasting and far-reaching.

A clutter-free environment can be a key factor in successfully managing a life transition.

« In any given moment we have two options: to step forward into growth or step back into safety.” — Abraham Maslow