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Author: Margaretha Montagu
Dr Margaretha Montagu – described as a “game changer”, “gifted healer”, “guiding light” and “life-enriching author” – is a certified transformational retreat leader who guides her clients towards their most meaningful and fulfilling lives, particularly when navigating life transitions – virtually, or with the assistance of her Friesian Horses, at their home in the southwest of France.
Friendship also means setting boundaries to protect your energy, especially during challenging life transitions. It’s okay to say no to invitations or expectations that don’t align with your well-being. True friends will understand and respect your needs.
This Christmas, give yourself permission to prioritize what feels right for you. Saying no isn’t about shutting people out—it’s about making space for the connections and activities that truly matter.
Journaling Prompt: What’s one boundary you need to set this season to protect your energy? How can you communicate it kindly to a friend?
Action Step: Practice saying no today, even if it’s just to a small request that feels overwhelming.
Interactive Comment: Learning to honor your needs? Comment with “I’m choosing me!”
Would you like to find out what type of friend YOU are? How well do you know your friends? If you and a new friend really are compatible? I have created a set of light-hearted quizzes, quotes and questions to help you do just that. Just fill in the form below and you’ll get immediate access to them all. I’ll also add you to my newsletter list, though you can unsubscribe from this list effortlessly and at any time. Included:
– How well do you know your Friends? Quiz – What is Your Friendship Style? and Are your Friendship Styles compatible? Quiz – 20 of the Most Inspiring Friends and Friendship Quotes and – 20 lighthearted Questions you can ask to get to know a new Friend
Discover how to build meaningful, lasting friendships and create a support system that truly has your back—delivered straight to your inbox!
Friends and Friendships
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Author Bio: Dr Margaretha Montagu – described as a “game changer”, “gifted healer”, “guiding light” and “life-enriching author” – is an experienced medical doctor, a certified NLP practitioner, a medical hypnotherapist, an equine-assisted psychotherapist (EAGALAcertified) and a transformational retreat leader who guides her clients through life transitions – virtually, or with the assistance of her Friesian and Falabella horses, at their home in the southwest of France.
Hit the pause button and regain your footing during a From Troubled to Triumphant Retreat. Imagine walking a peaceful stretch of the Camino de Santiago, where every step helps untangle the mental clutter or spending time with gentle Friesian horses who teach you the art of mindfulness. Whether you choose to make a change or are forced to, this retreat offers the perfect blend of peace, perspective, and playful exploration to help you rise from troubled to triumphant!
Let’s face it: relationships are like plants. Some thrive with a little neglect (looking at you, cactus friendships), while others wilt the second you forget to water them. But when life hands you burnout instead of butterflies, it’s time to pause and ask: Are my friendships actually helping me grow—or are they part of the reason I’m fried?
Cue the Friendship Audit. This isn’t a breakup blueprint or a list of ways to ghost that one high-maintenance friend (even if they do make you want to throw your phone into the nearest lake). Instead, it’s about reflecting on who’s truly in your corner—and who’s just crowding your calendar.
.The Big Question: Who’s Got Your Back?
Start by taking a mental inventory of your friendships. Grab a journal, a cup of tea/coffee/hot chocolate, and ask yourself:
Which friends make me feel lighter after talking to them?
Who supports me without needing to be the centre of my universe?
Are there people I secretly dread seeing but feel guilty about letting go?
The truth is, the best friendships aren’t about constant cheerleading or toxic positivity. They’re about showing up in the mess, handing you tissues when you cry over spilled oat milk, and saying, “Burnout? Been there. Let’s order pizza and rage-watch bad reality TV.”
I have always been aware that solid friendships can significantly influence burnout, positively. I haven’t given much thought to the other side of the coin, that “friendships” can also influence burnout negatively.
Toxic friends can not only influence, but significantly exacerbate burnout, particularly during life transitions. These challenging periods already demand substantial emotional resources, making us more vulnerable to stress. These “friends” often drain our energy further by consistently making us feel bad, disrespecting boundaries, and failing to provide genuine support[.
During major life changes, when we need understanding and encouragement the most, toxic friends may instead criticise, belittle our efforts, or simply discourage us. Their negative influence can intensify feelings of anxiety, self-doubt, and emotional exhaustion, which are common symptoms of burnout. Toxic friends can alienate us from other supportive relationships, leaving us without the necessary rest and emotional rejuvenation crucial for managing life changes. This combination of increased stress, lack of support, and emotional depletion can push an already exhausted person further into burnout, making the process of adapting to new life circumstances even more challenging.
Burnout Busters vs. the Burnout Boosters
Friendships should be a two-way street, not a traffic jam of unmet expectations. Here’s your cheat sheet:
Burnout Busters: Friends who listen without waiting for their turn to talk. People who respect your boundaries (and don’t guilt-trip you for skipping that 9 p.m. group hang). Cheerleaders who celebrate your wins—even the small ones like finally folding laundry.
Burnout Boosters: The “fixers” who can’t help but give unsolicited advice. Energy vampires who turn every convo into a therapy session for them. Those who mock your struggles, subtly or not. (“Burnout? From what? All that Netflix?”)
Spotting the Burnout Boosters
Burnout Boosters cause:
Emotional exhaustion: You feel drained or depleted after social interactions, even brief or seemingly positive ones.
Decreased desire for social engagement: You are reluctant to make plans, avoid social activities, and leave messages unanswered.
Overwhelm: You experience anxiety or stress when these “friends” contact you.
Irritability and resentment: You become easily annoyed with these friends over minor issues or you find yourself harboring grudges.
A loss of interest: You struggle to connect with these friends in a pleasurable or meaningful way.
A sense of obligation: You feel guilty when saying no to these friends or you prioritise their needs over your own.
Lack of enthusiasm: You no longer feel excited about spending time with these friends or find previously enjoyable activities burdensome.
Avoidance behaviour: You are constantly making excuses to avoid spending time with these friends or frequently cancel plans.
Mood swings: You experience irritability or quick-temperedness leading to tension in friendships.
Reduced self-care: You neglect your own physical and emotional needs due to burnout.
Feeling powerless: You feel a growing sense of pessimism about the future of the friendship.
Outgrowing the friendship: You start to feel pressured to act inauthentically as you’ve grown and developed as a person.
Journaling Prompts to Help You Audit Your Inner Circle
To figure out who deserves a prime spot in your emotional VIP section, try these journaling prompts:
1. When was the last time I left a friend feeling genuinely energised? Who was I with?
What made me feel so good? Was it the conversation, the activities, or just the vibe?
Did I feel seen and heard, or was it more about their presence putting me at ease?
How often do I prioritise spending time with this person, and could I make more space for them in my life?
2. Which friendships feel easy, like slipping into your favourite hoodie?
What makes this friendship feel so comfortable? Is it their sense of humour, the shared history, or their non-judgmental nature?
Do I feel like I can fully be myself around them—flaws, quirks, and all?
How do I contribute to the ease of this friendship? Do I show up with the same openness and care?
3. Is there anyone I avoid texting back because it feels exhausting?
What specifically about this relationship drains me—are they overly negative, needy, or dismissive of my feelings?
Do I feel like this friendship is one-sided, or that I’m giving more than I get?
What emotions come up when I think about spending time with this person—anxiety, guilt, resentment?
If I were to set a boundary with this person, what might that look like, and how would it feel?
4. Who shows up when I’m struggling—not just when I’m fun?
When I’ve been at my lowest, who has offered meaningful support? (Think: a listening ear, practical help, or simply being present.)
How do I feel when I reach out to this person—safe, validated, or afraid to be vulnerable?
What are the small but significant ways this person makes me feel cared for? (e.g., “They text me good luck before my big meeting,” “They remember my coffee order”)
Have I expressed gratitude for their support? If not, how can I show them that they matter to me?
5. What do my closest friendships say about me?How do I show up as a friend?
Are my friendships a reflection of who I am now—or who I used to be?
Do these relationships align with my values and goals, or are they tied to an old version of myself?
Am I someone who listens, celebrates others’ successes, and provides support without needing anything in return?
What’s one thing I can do this week to strengthen a friendship I value?
These prompts give you the opportunity to not only assess your friendships but also to actionably improve your friendships.
Write it all down, no filter. You might be surprised at what comes up (and who doesn’t).
The Lean-In List: Your Support Squad
Once you’ve done the journaling, create a “Lean-In List” of friends who genuinely lift you up. These are the people to text first when you’re spiralling steadily into depression. think of your Lean-In List as your dream team—your emotional Avengers, the people you can count on when life feels more like Endgame than a casual Tuesday.
How to Build Your Lean-In List
Creating this list isn’t about ranking your friends. It’s about intentionally identifying the relationships that truly nourish you—and that you want to nurture in return. Who’s shown up for you when life was messy?
Focus on Reciprocity: Relationships are meant to be a two-way street. Lean-In List members aren’t just great for you—you’re great for them, too. Think of friendships where support flows both ways. This isn’t about quantity. A Lean-In List with two solid names can be more powerful than a phonebook of acquaintances.
How to Use Your Lean-In List
A Lean-In List is only as good as the effort you put into it. Here’s how to make it your burnout-fighting secret weapon:
Reach Out Regularly: Whether it’s a quick text, a silly meme, or a standing coffee date, keep these relationships warm and thriving.
Be Honest About What You Need: Texts like “I’m feeling overwhelmed—can you talk?” aren’t burdens; they’re trust builders. The right people want to support you, not just hear about your wins.
Show Up for Them, Too: Burnout isn’t a solo sport, and chances are your Lean-In List members could use your support just as much as you need theirs.
In less than 2 hours a day, twice a day, for two days, you will learn:
How to get a fully restorative, refreshing and rejuvenating night’s sleep, night after night, so that you will stop feeling exhausted, have all the energy you need to get through the day, stop on the way home to shop for healthier food and even get some exercise two or three times a week.
How you can use three highly effective science-based resilience rituals that can help you to rewire your brain so that you’ll be able to cope more effectively with whatever challenges come your way, without getting irritated or frustrated because you are too tired to concentrate.
How to incorporate these rituals in a short, simple, time-saving tried-and-tested morning and evening routine that can help you burnout-proof your life once and for all, increase your resilience and safeguard your mental and physical health every time you go through a life transition.
It’s time to kick exhaustion to the curb and finally ditch that terminally overwhelmed feeling, evict your inner critic, declutter your mind and take control of your life like a boss.
By the end of the course, you won’t just have a Lean-In List—you’ll have the confidence, tools, and energy to lean on it, too.
Your Lean-In List is more than just a list; it’s your safety net, it’s your lifeline during burnout. When you take the time to nurture those connections—and yourself—getting from burnout to breakthrough doesn’t just feel possible. It feels inevitable.
Final Thoughts: Know When to Let Go
It’s okay to outgrow friendships. Not every relationship is meant to last forever, and that’s not a failure—it’s growth. The Friendship Self-Audit isn’t about cutting people off left and right; it’s about creating space for relationships that nourish you.
There are several healthy ways to distance yourself from a toxic friend:
Gradually reduce contact: Slowly decrease your interactions and availability, responding less frequently to messages and declining invitations politely.
Set clear boundaries: Limit your interactions and communicate your need for space if you feel safe doing so.
Focus on other relationships: Deepen existing healthy friendships and engage in new activities to meet like-minded people.
Mute or unfollow on social media: Prevent anxiety-provoking notifications by muting their messages and unfollowing them on social platforms.
Keep conversations neutral: When interacting, discuss only neutral topics, keep answers brief, and avoid confiding in them.
Prioritise self-care: Engage in activities that promote your well-being and emotional health.
Seek support: Confide in trustworthy friends or family members about your decision to distance yourself.
Be consistent: Once you’ve started distancing yourself, maintain your stance to avoid falling back into the toxic friendship.
Practice forgiveness: For your own emotional health, work on forgiving the toxic friend, which can help you move on.
Reflect on the friendship: Take time to evaluate how the relationship affects you and recognize its negative impact on your life.
It’s okay to prioritise your well-being and happiness when dealing with toxic friendships, especially during life transitions.
Author Bio: Dr Margaretha Montagu – described as a “game changer”, “gifted healer”, “guiding light” and “life-enriching author” – is an experienced medical doctor, a certified NLP practitioner, a medical hypnotherapist, an equine-assisted psychotherapist (EAGALAcertified) and a transformational retreat leader who guides her clients through life transitions – virtually, or with the assistance of her Friesian and Falabella horses, at their home in the southwest of France.
It’s time to kick exhaustion to the curb and finally ditch that terminally overwhelmed feeling, evict your inner critic, declutter your mind and take control of your life like a boss. You’re about to turn your life from a comedy of errors into a blockbuster success story (with a much better soundtrack). This two-day online course is designed for anyone facing a major life transition, needing to dramatically reduce stress, end exhaustion and overwhelm, and prevent or recover from burnout.
The holidays can highlight the importance of family, but for some, traditional family relationships may feel strained or distant. This is where friends can become your chosen family—a group of people who truly see, accept, and support you.
Take a moment to appreciate the friends who’ve stepped into that role in your life. These relationships are a testament to the idea that family isn’t always about blood—it’s about love, loyalty, and shared experiences.
Journaling Prompt: Which of your friends feels like family to you? How can you show them your appreciation this holiday season?
Action Step: Reach out to a “chosen family” friend today and let them know how much they mean to you.
Interactive Comment: Cherish your chosen family? Comment with “Friends are family!”
Would you like to find out what type of friend YOU are? How well do you know your friends? If you and a new friend really are compatible? I have created a set of light-hearted quizzes, quotes and questions to help you do just that. Just fill in the form below and you’ll get immediate access to them all. I’ll also add you to my newsletter list, though you can unsubscribe from this list effortlessly and at any time. Included:
– How well do you know your Friends? Quiz
– What is Your Friendship Style? and Are your Friendship Styles compatible? Quiz
– 20 of the Most Inspiring Friends and Friendship Quotes and
– 20 lighthearted Questions you can ask to get to know a new Friend
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Friends and Friendships
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I put the essence of who I am, and everything I have experienced that makes me who I am, with great enthusiasm, into my retreats, courses and books. – Dr Margaretha Montagu (MBChB, MRCGP, NLP master pract (cert,) Transformational Life Coach (dip,) Life Story Coach (cert) Counselling (cert,) Med Hypnotherapy (dip) and EAGALA (cert)
It’s time to kick exhaustion to the curb and finally ditch that terminally overwhelmed feeling, evict your inner critic, declutter your mind and take control of your life like a boss. You’re about to turn your life from a comedy of errors into a blockbuster success story (with a much better soundtrack). This two-day online course is designed for anyone facing a major life transition, needing to dramatically reduce stress, end exhaustion and overwhelm, and prevent or recover from burnout.
The holidays remind us of the joy of giving, but sometimes, we hesitate to give in friendships because we’re afraid it won’t be reciprocated. However, true generosity in friendships isn’t about keeping score; it’s about showing care and love because you want to.
A small act of kindness—a thoughtful message, a shared memory, or a surprise gesture—can brighten someone’s day in ways you might not even realize. Giving without expecting anything in return strengthens bonds and brings warmth to both you and your friend.
Journaling Prompt: What’s a small, thoughtful gesture you could do for a friend this week? How might it make them feel?
Action Step: Do one kind thing for a friend today. It could be sharing a funny memory, sending them a cheerful note, or surprising them with something they love.
Interactive Comment: Ready to give from the heart? Comment with “Giving is my gift!”
Would you like to find out what type of friend YOU are? How well do you know your friends? If you and a new friend really are compatible? I have created a set of light-hearted quizzes, quotes and questions to help you do just that. Just fill in the form below and you’ll get immediate access to them all. I’ll also add you to my newsletter list, though you can unsubscribe from this list effortlessly and at any time. Included:
– How well do you know your Friends? Quiz
– What is Your Friendship Style? and Are your Friendship Styles compatible? Quiz
– 20 of the Most Inspiring Friends and Friendship Quotes and
– 20 lighthearted Questions you can ask to get to know a new Friend
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Friends and Friendships
Discover how to build meaningful, lasting friendships and create a support system that truly has your back—delivered straight to your inbox! (newsletter subscription included)
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Author Bio: Dr Margaretha Montagu – described as a “game changer”, “gifted healer”, “guiding light” and “life-enriching author” – is an experienced medical doctor, a certified NLP practitioner, a medical hypnotherapist, an equine-assisted psychotherapist (EAGALAcertified) and a transformational retreat leader who guides her clients through life transitions – virtually, or with the assistance of her Friesian and Falabella horses, at their home in the southwest of France.
It’s time to kick exhaustion to the curb and finally ditch that terminally overwhelmed feeling, evict your inner critic, declutter your mind and take control of your life like a boss. You’re about to turn your life from a comedy of errors into a blockbuster success story (with a much better soundtrack). This two-day online course is designed for anyone facing a major life transition, needing to dramatically reduce stress, end exhaustion and overwhelm, and prevent or recover from burnout.
In a season often marked by busy schedules and loud celebrations, there’s something beautifully grounding about quiet moments shared with a friend. Sometimes, the best connections don’t need words.
Think about a peaceful winter evening spent with a friend, sipping tea, watching snow fall, or simply sitting in the comfort of each other’s presence. These moments remind us that being there for someone doesn’t always require action or advice—it’s enough just to share the space.
Quiet moments create a kind of magic. They allow us to recharge while reinforcing the bond we share with another person. This holiday season, make time for the quiet connections that truly matter.
Journaling Prompt: Think of a friend who brings you peace. How can you spend quiet, meaningful time with them this holiday season?
Action Step: Invite a friend to share a simple, quiet moment with you. Whether it’s an online chat or a relaxed evening in, let the focus be on just being present together.
Interactive Comment: Appreciate the power of quiet? Comment with “Peaceful moments matter!”
Would you like to find out what type of friend YOU are? How well do you know your friends? If you and a new friend really are compatible? I have created a set of light-hearted quizzes, quotes and questions to help you do just that. Just fill in the form below and you’ll get immediate access to them all. I’ll also add you to my newsletter list, though you can unsubscribe from this list effortlessly and at any time.
Included:
– How well do you know your Friends? Quiz
– What is Your Friendship Style? and Are your Friendship Styles compatible? Quiz
– 20 of the Most Inspiring Friends and Friendship Quotes and
– 20 lighthearted Questions you can ask to get to know a new Friend
Friends and Friendships
Discover how to build meaningful, lasting friendships and create a support system that truly has your back—delivered straight to your inbox! (newsletter subscription included)
Thank you so much!
More information about making friends and maintaining friendships (including the quizzes I mentioned) is on its way to you. You have also successfully subscribed to my newsletter.
I put the essence of who I am, and everything I have experienced that makes me who I am, with great enthusiasm, into my retreats, courses and books. – Dr Margaretha Montagu (MBChB, MRCGP, NLP master pract (cert,) Transformational Life Coach (dip,) Life Story Coach (cert) Counselling (cert,) Med Hypnotherapy (dip) and EAGALA (cert)
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Definition of Entrepreneurial Courage
If you are thinking about leaving the corporate world and starting a profitable business, you are going to need wheelbarrows full of courage. Ask me, I should know. I have been running my Camino de Santiago walking retreat business for more than a decade, and I am now adding online courses to my portfolio. You may be thinking “But what exactly IS entrepreneurial courage?”
Entrepreneurial courage is the physical, mental, and spiritual strength to face the inherent fears, uncertainties, and challenges that come with entrepreneurship, all while staying true to your core values. It means showing up with confidence and determination, even when the path ahead is unclear or intimidating.
In practical terms, entrepreneurial courage is about:
Taking risks: Investing time, money, and energy into ideas without guaranteed success.
Making bold decisions: Saying no to opportunities that don’t align with your vision, or pivoting your business in a new direction when needed.
Honouring your values: Building a business that reflects your principles, even when it might be easier to follow trends or compromise for short-term gains.
Facing fears: Overcoming impostor syndrome, addressing conflicts, or stepping into public roles like networking or speaking engagements, especially challenging for introverted business owners.
Persevering through setbacks: Learning from failures, adapting to challenges, and continuing to move forward when the going gets tough.
Entrepreneurial courage is not the absence of fear but the choice to move forward despite it, driven by a belief in your purpose and the value you bring to others. It’s about staying resilient in the face of uncertainty.
Everyday Acts of Courage
Saying “sorry” when you’ve made a mistake.
Being authentically yourself, even if it means standing out.
Taking responsibility for your actions and their consequences.
Setting and pursuing challenging personal or professional goals.
Saying “no” to requests that don’t align with your values or priorities.
Forgiving someone who has hurt you deeply.
Helping others, even when you’re struggling yourself.
Choosing to be kind and compassionate, even in difficult situations.
Practicing gratitude, especially during challenging times.
Actively listening to others, especially those with different perspectives.
Different Types of Courage
Physical Courage: This is the most traditional form of courage, characterized by the willingness to face bodily harm or death. It involves acting despite fear in situations where physical danger is present, such as confronting an attacker or participating in extreme sports.
A firefighter entering a burning building to rescue trapped occupants.
A person learning to skydive despite their fear of heights.
A cancer patient undergoing painful treatments to fight the disease.
Social Courage entails the ability to face social risks, such as embarrassment, rejection, or exclusion. This type of courage is crucial for leadership and involves being true to oneself in challenging social situations.
Speaking up in a meeting to present an unpopular but necessary idea.
Asking someone out on a date, risking rejection.
Standing up to a bully at school or in the workplace.
Moral Courage is about standing up for one’s beliefs and values, especially when doing so may lead to personal loss or disapproval from others. It involves making ethical decisions and acting in accordance with one’s principles, even under pressure.
A whistleblower exposing corporate wrongdoing, risking their career.
Refusing to participate in unethical business practices, even if it means losing a job.
Intervening when witnessing discrimination or harassment in public.
Emotional Courage: This type of courage allows individuals to experience a full range of emotions, including vulnerability and fear. Emotional courage is essential for personal growth and happiness, as it encourages openness to both positive and negative feelings.
Opening up to a therapist about past traumas.
Expressing vulnerability and sharing feelings with a partner.
Confronting a family member about a long-standing issue.
Intellectual Courage involves the willingness to engage with new ideas, challenge one’s own beliefs, and accept the possibility of being wrong. It requires an open mind and a readiness to learn from mistakes.
Engaging in respectful debates with people who hold opposing views.
Admitting when you’re wrong and changing your stance based on new information.
Pursuing education in a field completely different from your current expertise.
Spiritual Courage helps you confront profound questions about faith, purpose, and existence. It supports the pursuit of meaning in life, whether through religious beliefs or philosophical inquiry.
Questioning long-held beliefs and exploring new spiritual paths.
Sharing your faith or lack thereof in environments where it might be unpopular.
Making difficult life choices based on your spiritual convictions.
The Types of Courage You Need to Start a Business
Starting a business requires different types of courage, each playing a crucial role in the success of your business:
Social Courage: It is essential for entrepreneurs to be themselves unapologetically to stand out in the business world. For example, it involves speaking up to present your ideas and asking for support or investment despite the risk of rejection.
Moral Courage: Entrepreneurs often face ethical dilemmas and must have the strength to do what’s right, even when it’s uncomfortable or unpopular. This could involve refusing to participate in unethical business practices, even if it means losing potential profits or partnerships.
Emotional Courage: Starting a business is an emotional rollercoaster. Entrepreneurs need to accept and process both positive and negative emotions without guilt or attachment. This includes opening up about challenges and expressing vulnerability when seeking advice or support.
Intellectual Courage: The business world is constantly evolving, requiring entrepreneurs to learn, unlearn, and relearn with an open and flexible mind. This involves admitting when you’re wrong and changing your stance based on new information.
Physical Courage: While not always involving bodily risk, physical courage in entrepreneurship means persevering through long hours, stress, and potential health impacts to keep the business going.
Spiritual Courage: This involves living with purpose and meaning, approaching business decisions with a heart-centered approach. It’s about questioning long-held beliefs and making difficult choices based on your convictions.
Entrepreneurs must be willing to take risks without any guarantee of success. As I mentioned in the definition, courage isn’t the absence of fear; it’s acknowledging fear and moving ahead anyway, knowing that along the way, you’ll be able to master the necessary skills to achieve your goals.
Strategies to Develop Entrepreneurial Courage
Generating the courage to take risks in your business is a crucial aspect of entrepreneurial success.
Start small: Begin by taking calculated, smaller risks to build your confidence gradually. As you experience success with these smaller risks, you’ll feel more comfortable tackling larger ones.
Understand that not all risks can be predicted or controlled. Be willing to step out of your comfort zone and navigate through uncertain situations, as this can lead to innovative solutions and growth opportunities.
Analyse mistakes, identify areas for improvement, and adjust your strategies accordingly. View failures as valuable learning experiences that refine your risk-taking abilities.
Cultivate emotional resilience: Work on bouncing back from setbacks and maintaining a positive outlook through challenges.
Seek support: Prepare your employees, partners, and investors for potential difficulties. Having a strong support system can make it easier to face risks.
Focus on your vision: Remember your ultimate goals and the reasons you started your business. This can provide motivation and courage when facing risks.
Continuously educate yourself: Stay informed about your industry, market trends, and best practices. The more knowledge you have, the more confident you’ll feel in taking calculated risks.
Adopt a growth mindset: A growth mindset is an entrepreneur’s secret weapon: it helps you to raise the courage needed to face challenges, take risks, and persist in your venture.
Entrepreneurs with a growth mindset view challenges as opportunities for learning and development rather than insurmountable obstacles. This perspective enables you to approach difficult situations with determination.
A growth mindset helps you see failures as temporary setbacks and learning experiences rather than permanent defeats. This resilience allows you to bounce back from failures and continue pursuing your goals with renewed courage.
Those with a growth mindset believe that abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work. This belief encourages entrepreneurs to put in the necessary effort to improve their skills and knowledge, boosting their confidence and courage to take on new challenges.
Entrepreneurs with a growth mindset are more likely to view feedback and criticism constructively, using it to improve their strategies and approaches. This openness to learning enhances your ability to adapt and innovate courageously.
Rather than feeling threatened by others’ achievements, those with a growth mindset are inspired by their competition. This perspective encourages you to courageously pursue your goals and aspirations.
Persistence in the face of uncertainty: A growth mindset provides entrepreneurs with the courage to persist in uncertain and challenging environments.
By cultivating a growth mindset, you can develop the psychological capital necessary to face the risks and uncertainties inherent in entrepreneurship. This mindset enables you to approach challenges with courage, learn from failures, and continuously adapt and improve, ultimately contributing to your success and satisfaction in your entrepreneurial journey.
Lesser-known Courageous Female Entrepreneurs who have made a Significant Impact
If you need some inspiration:
C.J. Walker: Born to former slaves, she became one of the first American women to become a self-made millionaire. Her line of beauty and hair products for black women was revolutionary in the early 20th century.
Reshma Saujani: Founder of Girls Who Code, Saujani identified a critical gap in the tech industry and took innovative action to change it. She has empowered over 10,000 girls to enter the male-dominated field of technology, challenging industry norms and inspiring a new generation of tech leaders.
Ursula Burns: Starting as a summer intern at Xerox, Burns rose to become the first Black woman to lead a Fortune 500 company. Her journey from an NYC housing project to CEO showcases remarkable perseverance and courage in breaking barriers in corporate leadership.
Sara Blakely: Founder of Spanx, Blakely went from being a fax machine salesperson to creating a widely successful undergarment company. Her perseverance and problem-solving skills have made her one of the most successful female entrepreneurs.
Katrina Lake: Founder of Stitch Fix, Lake became the youngest female founder to lead an IPO in 2017. She identified an opportunity in the changing retail industry and built a widely loved online personal-shopping service.
Rachel Mielke: Founder of Hillberg & Berk, Mielke stands out for her work in empowering other women. Her jewelry brand has made significant charitable contributions and maintains a predominantly female workforce.
Mary Kay Ash revolutionised the beauty industry with her innovative business model and exceptional leadership skills. She empowered women by creating job opportunities and promoting them to leadership positions.
These entrepreneurs have not only achieved remarkable success but have also paved the way for future generations of women in business, demonstrating courage in breaking barriers and creating innovative solutions in their respective industries.
By implementing the strategies I discussed above, you can gradually build the courage needed to take risks in your business, leading to greater innovation, growth, and success.
When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not yet ready. The challenge will not wait. Life does not look back. A week is more than enough time for us to decide whether or not to accept our destiny. Paulo Coelho
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Author Bio: Dr Margaretha Montagu – described as a “game changer”, “gifted healer”, “guiding light” and “life-enriching author” – is an experienced medical doctor, a certified NLP practitioner, a medical hypnotherapist, an equine-assisted psychotherapist (EAGALAcertified) and a transformational retreat leader who guides her clients through life transitions – virtually, or with the assistance of her Friesian and Falabella horses, at their home in the southwest of France.
Imagine having a survival toolkit ready next time you’re hit by a life-shattering transition. My How to Survive a Life Quake 7-part online course isn’t just another hybrid course – with or without coaching – it’s a heartfelt made-with-love guide packed with tools to help you survive and even thrive through life’s toughest transitions, with resilience.
Friendships are like gardens—they flourish with care and attention. And one of the simplest yet most powerful ways to nurture them is through gratitude. Think about the friends who have supported you this year. Did someone listen to you when you needed to vent? Offer advice that shifted your perspective? Simply sit with you in your silence? These acts of kindness, no matter how small, deserve acknowledgement. Gratitude doesn’t just make others feel appreciated—it also deepens your own sense of connection. It shifts your focus from what’s missing to what’s present and valuable in your life. This Christmas, let your gratitude become a bridge that strengthens your friendships.
Journaling Prompt: Write down three things you appreciate about a close friend. How might you express that appreciation to them this week?
Action Step: Choose one friend and send them a message of thanks today. Be specific about what you value in them—it will make your words even more meaningful.
Interactive Comment: Gratitude opens hearts. Comment with “I’m thankful!” if you’re ready to spread appreciation.
Would you like to find out what type of friend YOU are? How well do you know your friends? If you and a new friend really are compatible? I have created a set of light-hearted quizzes, quotes and questions to help you do just that. Just fill in the form below and you’ll get immediate access to them all. I’ll also add you to my newsletter list, though you can unsubscribe from this list effortlessly and at any time.
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As I have several introverted friends (and I am an introvert, or a covert-introvert, myself, ) I have discovered that introverts can provide invaluable support during life transitions. We excel at providing emotional support and offer a calming presence during turbulent times. Our ability to listen attentively and process information thoughtfully allows us to offer insightful advice and genuine empathy during major life changes.
Carl Jung created the term “introvert” (and its opposite extreme, extrovert), but even he noted that introverts and extroverts are a minority. Between those two extremes are the largest group of personalities: people known as ambiverts. Psychologist Adam Grant has studied ambiverts extensively and believes they comprise up to two-thirds of the population.
That means that introverts are a minority, making up roughly 16 percent of people.
Introverts will allow you to process your emotions and thoughts at your own pace. We can provide undivided attention and create a judgment-free space for you to express your insecurities. Introverts can help you reflect on your experiences, gain new perspectives, and find meaning in the changes you’re going through as Shelley’s story shows:
The Loud One and the Listener
Shelly had always been a human confetti cannon—bursting into rooms with a crackle of lightning, leaving everyone dazzled or at least dusted with glitter. She thrived on attention, the undisputed queen of cocktail banter, viral Instagram posts, and spontaneous karaoke. Extroverted to her marrow, she was the person you’d want to sit next to at a dull wedding, assuming you didn’t mind losing your voice from laughing too hard.
But lately, Shelly’s trademark sparkle had faded. Her job, once a carnival of excitement, had devolved into the bureaucratic equivalent of watching beige paint dry. The adventurer in her craved change.
What she hadn’t anticipated, however, was how soul-crushing the job hunt would be. The odd interview she was invited to felt like a dreadful blind date without any follow-up. Even Shelly’s unparalleled ability to turn a bad day into a meme-worthy anecdote faltered. It was like trying to start a campfire in the rain.
Enter Jenna.
Jenna worked in the same office, at the desk directly adjacent to Shelly’s, a proximity that had somehow never translated into friendship. Quiet to the point of near invisibility, Jenna was organised, efficient, and notably short on small talk. She and Shelly had coexisted for three years with no more than the occasional exchange of pleasantries. To Shelly, Jenna was….polite. Possibly powered down when no one was looking.
But during one kitchen chat—a rare alignment of their coffee breaks—Shelly let slip her job-hunting woes. To her surprise, Jenna’s eyes lit up, a spark of recognition that made Shelly wonder if her neighbour had secretly been replaced by a more animated version.
“I remember how brutal that can be,” Jenna said. “Want some help with your resume?”
Shelly blinked, her brain stalling like a browser tab loading a heavy page. Jenna…helpful? It seemed improbable, but Shelly’s desperation outweighed her scepticism.
“Yes, please,” she said, because the alternative was sinking in the bottomless rejection pit.
That’s when Shelly discovered Jenna wasn’t just helpful; she was a Swiss Army knife of job-hunting expertise.
Jenna didn’t merely tweak Shelly’s resume. She transformed it, sharpening each bullet point until the document sparkled with purpose. She unearthed obscure job postings Shelly hadn’t considered, researched companies with the tenacity of an investigative journalist, and—because introverts never do anything halfway—created a colour-coded spreadsheet.
“Where do you find the time for this?” Shelly asked one day, half in awe, half in shame at her own time spent perfecting TikTok dances.
Jenna shrugged, not even looking up from the spreadsheet. “I don’t spend all my energy on happy hour.”
Touché.
The more time Shelly spent with Jenna, the more she realised how different they were. While Shelly’s default mode was “fireworks display,” Jenna’s was “intense focus.” She didn’t crack jokes to lift Shelly’s spirits; she offered a grounding presence that said, You’re not in this on your own.
In the midst of their prep for yet another interview, Shelly blurted out, “I’m starting to think introverts might secretly be superheroes.”
Jenna smirked, sipping her tea. “Introverts are good at one thing: listening while everyone else is talking.”
It hit Shelly like a gong. Jenna hadn’t been silent all these years because she had nothing to say. She’d quietly been paying attention, absorbing details most other people missed.
A month later, Shelly landed her dream job—a role that fit her like a perfectly tailored blazer. The first person she contacted wasn’t her mom or one of her Instagram followers. It was Jenna.
“You did it!” Jenna said, her voice warm and a little louder than usual.
“No,” Shelly corrected, grinning ear to ear. “We did it.”
Because sometimes, it’s not the loudest person in the room who makes the greatest impact. Sometimes, it’s the quiet ones who make things happen.
10 Surprising Benefits of Befriending Introverts
Shelly’s story highlights some of the benefits of having an introverted friend, but not all of them. Introverts also offer:
Understanding and Acceptance
Strong Connections: Introverts often value quality over quantity when it comes to relationships. They aren’t interested in shallow exchanges or fleeting encounters. Instead, they invest their time and energy in forming meaningful bonds. A friendship with an introvert is a gateway to authentic conversations that go beyond the superficial. If you’re looking for someone who truly listens and understands, an introvert will be your go-to confidant.
Non-Judgmental Attention: Introverts typically create a safe environment for their friends, allowing for open and honest conversations without the pressure of small talk. This setting encourages vulnerability and authenticity, making it easier to share thoughts and feelings.
Respect for Boundaries: Introverts understand the importance of personal space and downtime. They are likely to respect their friends’ need for alone time, fostering a relationship based on mutual understanding of each other’s social needs.
Unique Perspectives
Thoughtful Insights: Introverts often reflect before they speak, taking the time to analyse situations and behaviour. This means they can offer perspectives you may not have considered. Their thoughtful insights can enrich your understanding and help you navigate challenges more effectively. Their tendency to think before they speak can lead to interesting discussions that challenge conventional viewpoints.
Creative Problem Solving: Many introverts excel in creative thinking and problem-solving. They often approach challenges from different angles, which can be beneficial in collaborative situations or when seeking advice.
Emotional Support
Loyalty and Reliability: Introverts don’t take friendships lightly. If they let you into their inner world, it’s because they genuinely care about you. They are often dependable, fiercely loyal, and willing to go the extra mile for the people they love. They’ll be there for you during tough times, providing support and understanding when you need it most.
Counterbalance to the Chaos: Life is often hectic, and we all need a safe haven from time to time. Introverts radiate a calm, grounded energy. Spending time with an introverted friend can feel like a soothing retreat—no need to perform, impress, or compete. You can simply be yourself.
ActiveListening Skills: Introverts have a knack for active listening. They take the time to understand their friends’ feelings and perspectives. They excel at tuning in, picking up on nuances, and giving you their full attention. They won’t interrupt you with unrelated anecdotes or dominate the conversation. Instead, they’ll offer thoughtful responses, helping you feel seen and heard—a rare treasure in today’s fast-paced world.
Confidentiality: Trust is the cornerstone of any strong friendship, and introverts excel in this arena. Their reserved nature makes them natural secret-keepers. You can confide in an introverted friend without worrying about your personal matters becoming public knowledge.
Befriending an introvert can lead to enriching experiences characterised by strong emotional connections, thoughtful conversations, and mutual support.
Misconceptions About Introverts and Friendship
There are several common misconceptions about introverts and their capacity for friendship that can lead to misunderstandings. Some of the most prevalent myths:
1. Introverts Don’t Like People Contrary to popular belief, introverts do enjoy social interactions; they simply prefer deeper connections with a few close friends rather than superficial relationships with many acquaintances. Introverts value their friendships highly and often form strong bonds with those they trust.
2. Introverts Are Shy Introverts may be quiet or reserved, but this does not mean they are afraid of social situations. They often engage in conversations when they feel there is a meaningful topic to discuss.
3. Introverts Are Rude or Aloof Introverts may come across as standoffish due to their preference for fewer words and more meaningful exchanges. This behaviour can be misinterpreted as rudeness, but it stems from their desire for authenticity rather than small talk.
4. Introverts Prefer to Be Alone While introverts do enjoy solitude and need time alone to recharge, they also crave genuine connections. They can feel lonely without meaningful interactions, highlighting their need for companionship despite their introverted nature.
5. Introverts Are Anti-Social This misconception suggests that introverts avoid social situations entirely, which is not true. They may prefer smaller gatherings or quieter environments but can still enjoy socialising within their comfort zones.
6. Introverts Don’t Know How to Have Fun Introverts have their own ways of enjoying life that may differ from extroverted norms. They often find joy in quieter activities like reading, hiking, or engaging in deep conversations rather than large parties or loud events.
7. Introverts Can Become Extroverts There is a belief that introverts can “fix” themselves to become more extroverted, but this overlooks the inherent value of introversion. Each personality type brings unique strengths and contributions, and introversion should not be seen as a deficiency that needs correction.
8. Introverts Are Not Good Leaders There is a stereotype that effective leaders must be extroverted, charismatic, and outgoing. However, many introverts possess strong leadership qualities such as active listening, empathy, and the ability to think critically. They often lead by example and can inspire others through their thoughtful approach and calm demeanour.
9. Introverts Don’t Enjoy Group Activities While introverts may prefer smaller gatherings, they can still enjoy group activities—especially if they are structured in a way that allows for meaningful interaction. For instance, they may thrive in workshops, book clubs, or team projects where they can contribute without the pressure of constant socialising.
10. Introverts Are Always Quiet While introverts may be quieter in large groups, they can be quite expressive and animated in one-on-one conversations or small settings where they feel comfortable. Their passion and enthusiasm can shine through when discussing topics they care deeply about, debunking the notion that they are always reserved.
Understanding that introverts have different social needs and preferences can lead to more fulfilling friendships based on mutual respect and understanding.
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Introverts need Support during Life Transitions too
Life transitions can be particularly challenging for introverts, who often process change internally and may feel overwhelmed by external pressures to “figure it all out.” This is why so many introverts are drawn to my Camino de Santiago walking retreats, which offer a sanctuary of quiet reflection and thoughtful guidance.
Unlike large, bustling group events, these retreats provide a peaceful, intimate setting with small groups, where participants can explore their emotions at their own pace. The combination of gentle walks along the Camino, opportunities for meaningful conversations, and plenty of personal downtime makes these retreats uniquely appealing to introverts. They appreciate the balance of solitude and connection, the structured yet flexible support, and the chance to recharge in a space designed with their needs in mind.
Step away from the noise and discover the clarity you’ve been searching for—reserve your place on the next Camino de Santiago walking retreat today!
Email me at welcome2gascony@gmail.com to inquire about availability
Author Bio: Dr Margaretha Montagu – described as a “game changer”, “gifted healer”, “guiding light” and “life-enriching author” – is an experienced medical doctor, a certified NLP practitioner, a medical hypnotherapist, an equine-assisted psychotherapist (EAGALAcertified) and a transformational retreat leader who guides her clients through life transitions – virtually, or with the assistance of her Friesian and Falabella horses, at their home in the southwest of France.
Hit the pause button and regain your footing during a From Troubled to Triumphant Retreat. Imagine walking a peaceful stretch of the Camino de Santiago, where every step helps untangle the mental clutter or spending time with gentle Friesian horses who teach you the art of mindfulness. Whether you choose to make a change or are forced to, this retreat offers the perfect blend of peace, perspective, and playful exploration to help you rise from troubled to triumphant!
The thought of building new friendships during a life transition can be intimidating. But this season of warmth and connection offers the perfect backdrop to meet new people who might bring unexpected joy into your life.
Christmas events, community gatherings, or even online spaces are filled with opportunities to connect. Remember, every friendship starts with a simple introduction. The barista you see every morning, the neighbor you exchange nods with, or someone in your extended social circle could become a meaningful connection if you’re open to the possibility.
New friendships are a reminder that life always offers fresh beginnings, even during times of change. You don’t have to navigate transitions alone—there are people out there ready to walk alongside you.
Journaling Prompt: What qualities do you value most in a friend? How can you show those qualities to others as you meet new people?
Action Step: Introduce yourself to someone new today. It could be as simple as a smile or a short conversation. Small beginnings can lead to big friendships.
Interactive Comment: Taking the first step is brave! Comment with “Here’s to new friends!” if you’re ready to try.
Would you like to find out what type of friend YOU are? How well do you know your friends? If you and a new friend really are compatible? I have created a set of light-hearted quizzes, quotes and questions to help you do just that. Just fill in the form below and you’ll get immediate access to them all. I’ll also add you to my newsletter list, though you can unsubscribe from this list effortlessly and at any time. Included:
How well do you know your Friends? Quiz
What is Your Friendship Style? and Are your Friendship Styles compatible? Quiz
20 of the Most Inspiring Friends and Friendship Quotes and
20 lighthearted Questions you can ask to get to know a new Friend
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Life transitions can feel isolating, especially during the holiday season when everything seems to revolve around joy and togetherness. But even in the darkest times, we don’t have to face challenges alone. True friends want to support us; they just need to know we’re open to receiving their help.
Reaching out can feel daunting. What if they don’t understand? What if they think you’re being too much? These fears are normal, but they’re often unfounded. Vulnerability is a bridge that connects hearts. By opening up, you not only lighten your own burden but also give your friend permission to do the same.
Take a moment to reflect on who you trust. Then, take the first step, however small it feels. A simple “I’m having a tough time” can lead to deeper conversations and a stronger bond.
Journaling Prompt: What’s one thing you’ve been holding back from sharing with a friend? Why? How might they respond if you trusted them with it?
Action Step: Choose a friend and share something about your life transition. It doesn’t have to be heavy; even a small glimpse into your feelings can invite connection.
Interactive Comment: Ready to let someone in? Comment with “I’m reaching out!”
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Friends who listen without waiting for their turn to talk.
The “fixers” who can’t help but give unsolicited advice.
