1. Nervous System Regulation During Divorce (10-page White Paper) – an immediately applicable, sanity-saving Protocol
2. Critical Decision-making Protocol (ebook) – a simple system for sorting through complex choices without frying your nervous system
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4. Divorce/Breakup Recovery Intensive retreats in the sun-drenched southwest of France
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“I am an experienced medical doctor – MBChB, MRCGP, NLP master pract cert, Transformational Life Coach (dip.) Life Story Coach (cert.) Stress Counselling (cert.) Med Hypnotherapy (dip.) and EAGALA (cert.) I may have an impressive number of letters after my name, and more than three decades of professional experience, but what qualifies me to excel at what I do is my intuitive understanding of my clients’ difficulties and my extensive personal experience of managing major life changes using strategies I developed over many years.” Dr M Montagu
Blog Posts about Divorce
- Stop trying to “Find Yourself.” You’re not lost
Everywhere you look, someone is promising to help you “find yourself.” I’m so fed up with that. It’s become one of those expressions we barely question. We say it after a divorce, before a career change, during a gap year or when someone announces they’re off travelling with a backpack and a vague itinerary. “I …Continue reading “Stop trying to “Find Yourself.” You’re not lost”
- 5 Kinds of Listening That Will Help You Navigate Life’s Biggest Transitions
The Hidden Art of Hearing What Life Is Really Telling You Quick Snapshot: What You’re About to Read What this is: A fresh look at the overlooked skill of listening, not just to other people, but to your body, your instincts, your grief, your silence, and even your horses (stay with me). For people at …Continue reading “5 Kinds of Listening That Will Help You Navigate Life’s Biggest Transitions”
- What Nobody Tells You About Starting Over After Divorce
Why Purpose matters more than ever when you are going through a Divorce/Breakup What this is: A frank, research-informed look at why reconnecting with purpose isn’t just feel-good advice when you’re divorcing, it’s the difference between starting over and simply surviving. Expect practical strategies, not platitudes. What this isn’t: Another “you’ll be fine” pep talk …Continue reading “What Nobody Tells You About Starting Over After Divorce”
- Why Storytelling During a Divorce Recovery Retreat Might Be the Plot Twist You Need
What this is: A deep dive into why telling your story, out loud, to other humans who’ve been through it, matters more than you think. This is about the neuroscience, the heart science, and the practical magic of storytelling during divorce and breakup retreats. What this isn’t: Another “journaling will fix everything” article. This isn’t … - How to Keep Your Ducks in a Row When You’re Getting Divorced
Sometimes the best thing you can do is let your ducks waddle wherever they please while you focus on not drowning in the pond. A Tsunami in a Duck Pond Picture this: You wake up one morning thinking you’re the CEO of Duck Management Inc., only to discover that your ducks have unionised, your pond …Continue reading “How to Keep Your Ducks in a Row When You’re Getting Divorced”
- How Do You Cope With Your Mind-numbing Divorce/Breakup?
#BruisedButNotBroken Series Question: “I’m going through a divorce and trying to make sense of it all. I’ve heard that knowing your life purpose can help during difficult times. Can someone explain how knowing my life purpose might help me cope with the emotional challenges of divorce?” Short Answer: When your relationship ends, knowing your life …Continue reading “How Do You Cope With Your Mind-numbing Divorce/Breakup?”
- Love, Lies, and Life After Divorce
How Walking an Ancient Trail (Kind of) Saved My Life My Guest Greg’s Post-Retreat Interview These days, I do post-retreat interviews with participants in my TrailTracers: Crossroads Camino Walking Retreats. Here is what Greg had to say: Three months after my divorce, I found myself arguing with a squirrel. “You don’t know anything about loss,” … - Reclaiming Your Professional Identity After Divorce
A Path to Impactful Reinvention There’s a particular kind of disorientation that arrives after the dust of divorce begins to settle. The immediate legal and logistical storms may have passed, but in their wake lies a question that can feel both daunting and surprisingly liberating: Who am I now? For accomplished professionals—those who have built …Continue reading “Reclaiming Your Professional Identity After Divorce”
- Why I Wrote “After the Divorce: A Survival Manual for Successful Professionals in Crisis – For Men”
I have just published After the Divorce – The Ultimate Roadmap to ReConstructing Yourself: For Men. Why did a woman write a book about divorce for men? In this post, I’ll tell you. Introduction: Divorce Doesn’t Care About Your Resume You can negotiate billion-dollar deals, lead teams across time zones, and stay calm under pressure—but … - 12 Unconventional Ways Travel can Give You A New Lease on Life After a Divorce
Finding Yourself in the Strangest Places Life Quake Series They say travel broadens the mind, but here’s a lesser-known secret: it also closes doors. Yep, the ones that need closing—like the door on a marriage that’s run its course. Forget bingeing on chocolate chip ice cream and sad playlists; there’s a big, wild world out …Continue reading “12 Unconventional Ways Travel can Give You A New Lease on Life After a Divorce”
- 12 Unconventional Ways of Coping with the Fall-out of Your Divorce
Life Quake Series: Divorce More than 12 actually, because when I researched this some of the proposed solutions made me laugh out loud. This reminded me that humour is a powerful antidote to anguish and getting divorced is one of the most anguish-inducing life transitions. You have been warned; don’t expect a list of serious …Continue reading “12 Unconventional Ways of Coping with the Fall-out of Your Divorce”
- Getting Motivated to Declutter During Life Transitions
Coping with Life Changes, Challenges and Transitions Series Theresa stood in the middle of her living room, surrounded by piles of paperwork from years gone by, dusty stacks of old newspapers and magazines, bulging boxes of “fat” clothes and “thin” clothes, some never worn, and an eclectic collection of thoughtless gifts. After 20 years of …Continue reading “Getting Motivated to Declutter During Life Transitions”